Explicit Instructions on How To Be The PRIZE He Wants

Thanks, Maria. Makes sense, but I still feel like it’s doomed from the start when I make a move, because it’s technically giving the man something he hasn’t “earned”.

Mar – it’s not doomed from the start. When you are “the prize” so to speak, you have worked on yourself and developed so much and your self esteem is so high and strong that if a man you choose doesn’t return your “invitation” you will be fine. It’s an open invitation and he doesn’t have to RSVP, he can show up if he chooses and not if he isn’t feeling it. It’s not rejection of you if he isn’t really feeling it, right? If he isn’t feeling it, and it’s not mutual, it’s not going to work.

Now if you want to settle down, you pick the most earnest and likable of your suitors. And if you want a marriage and kids, sometimes your decision won’t be based on dating the person you are absolutely crazy for. And perhaps over time your attraction to the person you chose will grow.

It’s the same for men. It goes both ways.

Hi Mar,

It is a misconception that men make the first move always…you and I know they don’t always. We signal consciously or unconsciously our interest from across a room….It is not approaching a guy – it is inviting him to approach you.

Some men will come over uninvited and that is ok too – but we are very much involved in the beginning…we pick who approaches us…it is almost like we throw out the line – and either the guy takes the bait or doesn’t….

Let’s take a scenario…you go to a nightclub and see a man who flips your wig – what do you do? Well, your eyes keep going back to him again and again – then he sees you – you look away and then look back…you threw out the line…you smile at him – he gets up out of his chair and walks over to you…who started it? You did…

Those 30 men standing around him did not walk over…why? Cause you did not start anything with them….