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Layla
I know I’m gonna get a lot of hate so here it goes…
Me and my good friend met up on Sunday night. Known each other for a long time, started becoming very different but we meet to talk non sense and chill and escape.
Anyway, she doesn’t do relationships and she sleeps around and does threesomes and gets STD from time to time. and yet she continues bc she finds it fun.
On Sunday, she wanted a one night stand, but her phone died so asked to use mine. I said ok, matched with a few guys and long story short got what she wanted that night/morning.
I didn’t delete the app and started talking to this guy. He’s nice and I thought I’m gonna delete this app anyway so might as well talk for 1h and delete. One thing lead to another, we’re still talking. But the picture is not me, it’s my friend. This guy seems very genuine and want to settle down and all and now wants to meet up.
I want to just ghost him. I don’t think I can bare the thought of telling him, my friend wanted a f**k but the app was on my phone. He likes my friend, not me. He finds my friend attractive not me.
We’ve talked on the phone 1 week now.
I know I’m a terrible person. So no need to tell me that. I’m sick to the stomach to have led him on.
My question is: do I tell him the truth before ghosting him or just ghost?
AngieBaby
I’m starting to wonder if all these posts lately are for real.
If this is real and as this is the company you keep and how you conduct yourself – it’s your life, suit yourself. Can’t be bothered to judge or hate you.
Not sure why you’ve got so much angst over this. Flip a coin. It doesn’t really matter because the end result is the same. Unless you’re hoping that if you tell him, he’ll still be interested in meeting you – and that’s what I suspect you’re thinking, otherwise you would have just ghosted, told him you met someone else or whatever.
Does your friend know you’re using her app and pretending to be her with this guy? I presume that she does and isn’t bothered about it.
Just make a decision and cut him off however you want to. Stop leading the guy on, that’s the important thing.
Layla
This is all true.
Yes she knows I’m using the app. She was the one who started the conversation with him but found a quicker response. She doesn’t care at all.
I do really like the guy but I’ve done a sh*t thing. 100%. So re your question: I do somewhat hope that he would forgive me and meet me. But understands if he doesn’t want to
AngieBaby
Ok so then just confess and get it over with and either he’ll be angry and cut you off or find it amusing and meet you. Sounds like a movie plot, actually.
Layla
Hey. Didn’t go well. I told him the truth.
Wanted to meet the decided no. Blocked.
Oh well. I’ve learnt my lesson.
It just happened.
Raven
Sorry @Layla, that means you dodged a bullet!
He was only looking for a hookup…
Raven
Also- don’t loan your phone to this particular friend again.
Layla
He wasn’t looking for hookup. He wanted to settle down and he was wanting ‘me’ to be his last. I felt he genuinely like ‘me’. He said he doesn’t mind meeting after showing him a photo of me but then said no shortly. So not meeting anymore.
I feel like dirt on the ground for causing him pain.
I feel so guilty and I was physically sick in the toilet last night and didn’t sleep all night.
Am I a bad person??
AngieBaby
Layla, no offense, but you’re kind of delusional. Get off the dating sites and work on your self esteem.
Some total stranger says online he wants to settle down and basically hints that he wants to marry you, and you believe it, while you’re pretending to be someone else so he thinks he’s talking to your friend when he says it and you’re completely destroyed that he doesn’t want to meet you now?? Do you see that doesn’t make sense and that you knowingly and willingly set yourself up for rejection????
Sweetie, this isn’t about being a good or bad person. It’s about treating yourself and others well. Which you aren’t doing. That’s why you feel like dirt. Good news: you can change that. See a therapist. Please.
Tammy
Bad person? Duno abt that but r u for real??
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