Fiance Disrespected

My sister said I should. That if somewhere down the line I slipped, he would’ve be extra mad that I kept it from him. Plus, I’m not telling my friend. She’s been with him almost 11 years. a little background – he had met me years ago when I was dating someone else and commented to my friend about how he found me gorgeous. I stopped hanging with them until recently when I started dating my now fiance. I thought things were ok. I never sensed he was still attracted to me. He def ccaught me off guard.

We were all saying goodbye. My fiancé was saying goodbye to her when her bf walked to me kissed me on the cheek before hugging me then before he let go kissed me on the neck. I didn’t think anything of it until I was home and remembered an ex had done that to me after our first date and how it showed me he was interested in more. And yes, we aren’t hanging anymore. My fiancé was quiet all the way home when I first told him. He stayed quiet then went for a walk for like 10 minutes. Got home and then told me his plan to fight him. I don’t know if my fiancé I psycho and it’s showing up now or this really is a big situation.

Your Fiancé was not disrespected. It was your GF that was disrespected:..

we are all American. We kiss on the cheek, but not the neck. That was the problem.
@raven – both were disrespected including me.

That’s pretty bold, doing something like that when your BF and his GF are close by.

At this point, if you know the four of you aren’t going to hang out any longer, all you can do is let some time go by and hopefully your fiancé will let it go eventually.

Can you tell your fiance this jerk is meaningless to you and isn’t worth your fiance ending up facing assault charges, so can it be enough for you both to simply cut the guy out and not waste further time or energy on him? Your fiance can trust you, you’ve *all* been disrespected and want nothing more to do with him. It’s totally normal to be angry about the situation, but it’s mature not to escalate it. Instead, both of you go no contact with this crappy guy, and focus on enjoying your wedding and the people you actually want to have around you.

I’m not sure what to do about your friend, though. Is she already aware of his disrespectful behavior in general but choosing to ignore it to stay with him? Usually things like this don’t only happen once with one person, he will try to get away with as much as he can with multiple women, so there are likely other red flags for her already that she may be looking the other way on. If she’s ignoring it, telling her he’s a jerk may not help as she will take his side. In which case you can keep hanging out with her, but not want to see him anymore. I’ve had things go either way when I’ve told friends their man was problematic. No one ever listens, but some come around and thank you later, others just get mad and cut you out instead of leaving the guy.