Fiancé drama

He says he doesn’t think I’m cheating but I’m suspicious. The guy is managing my instagram page and I should have a problem with it. Because I don’t I’m suspicious…first of all I don’t even go onto the page for anything so I really don’t understand his concern. It all just seems crazy to me and he randomly brings this back up especially since I kicked my fiancé off the page because of all of these unnecessary accusations.

Is the page under your name? Does it have your pictures?

If you reverse this situation on yourself does it sound legit? Cause why would you let someone use your identity for a page that you do not monitor. He could be posting all sorts of things under your name. This is why he finds it strange you’re not concerned. And the fact you trust this male friend this much, that is why he is suspicious. Has he met this male friend? Also you’re choosing to kick him off a page you don’t care for or even use rather than not having it there at all? A lot don’t make sense.

To put an end to it take down the damn page. If you don’t enjoy socials and you told him you do not use socials, just don’t have one at all in anyway or these kinds of situations will arise or some perv out there might use your identity to catfish other people etc.

My friend created a page for me prior to my relationship with my fiancé. He did it as a joke saying I need social media so I allowed him to creat it and gave him one pic to do so end of story. It didn’t go any further than that, completely innocent. I offered to delete the page and my fiancé says it’s not that. Then he mentions beating up the guy. He’s just ridiculously jealous and for no reason.

I just saw your other post– we cross posted. Your fiance sounds overly jealous. His reaction isn’t reasonable. The page is weird, but his reaction is over the top.

Have you had other issues like this in your relationship? (Jealousy, control issues, etc). How long have you been together?

Well, should have started the post with all the details because your fiance sounds exhausting.

I agree to both Liz and Raven.

I told him I’m suspicious of him because he keeps making accusations about me, bate and switch tactic for the most part. He said that sounds ridiculous, it doesn’t make any sense the only person he wants to be with is me. There is no way he wants anyone else and he doesn’t know anyone who thinks like that. In addition, he has an ex-wife and a nine year old daughter and has problems accepting that I have a past as well. He has accused me of still wanting my ex whom I haven’t spoken to in years. My ex lives 3,000 miles on the other side of the country in California. We’re on the east coast. Another recent jealous situation that occurred was regarding a souvenir knife I got and purchased from traveling to Japan. My fiancé and I just moved together and he accused me of parading the ex lovers stuff around in our house. I explained it wasn’t from my ex. It was something I purchased that I wanted. He said, well you were with him when you got it. He said he has nothing in our house from having been in a previous relationship. He asked me to put all of my souvenirs I’ve got prior to being with him in a box away. I felt this was totally out of line. When I asked him, who does he think he is to tell me what to do with my things”. He said he took it as a form of disrespect as if he’s nobody. He’s my fiancé. My response was we are equal and I’m not a child, being my fiancé doesn’t give you a right to ask me to do such a thing. He became violent and went in my office and tore it apart…yelled and screamed telling me that I don’t respect him. When I tried to stop him he ripped my t-shirt in half.

He is controlling and abusive.

Do not marry him.

Note that he will not leave you alone even after the break up. Be prepared for a restraining order when it gets necessary.

Please do not marry him please. End the relationship now.

Thanks everyone for the advice. I think I really just needed to here it. I’m planning an exit strategy to remove myself from the home we are renting. I have a few options I’m looking into.

yeah plan and then get out.