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Ej2014
Hi everyone,
I’ve met a good guy, we’ve had 4 nice dates & talk almost everyday.
He’s starting to open up more about himself.
Tomorrow night for our 5th date he’s cooking dinner which will be nice however it’s
Made me think about sleeping with him & to be truthful I’m not ready, I like him & things are going along smoothly
but I feel like I want to learn more about him before we sleep together because I am looking for a relationship not a booty call.
When do you think is a good time to sleep with someone you genuinely want to start a relationship with?
If the topic comes up is it ok to tell a guy you want to take things slow, get to know each other more?
Any advice on this will be appreciated especially if anyone’s wondered this same question themselves :)Meg
Hi there,
The best time to have sex is absolutely when you feel ready and not a second before! Anybody who is going to be worth your time will understand this. Women who respect themselves and their boundaries are sexy. Sometimes waiting until the time feels right can make that moment even more special.
Good Luck,
Harley
YOU sleep with him WHEN it feels right for YOU.
There is NO time limit on that. For some it’s a 1st date, for others a year.
Most… after 3 months, or when he calls you GF and you are exclusive.
By the sounds of you.. you are NOWHERE near ready.
Stacey
I would probably not go to his house for dinner then. I think back to by boyfriend now and the first time we slept together was when he came to my house and I cooked him dinner. It’s hard being in a home environment and sticking to your guns. I really liked my current boyfriend at this time and was so turned on by him there was no way I wasn’t sleeping with him that night lol! Luckily for me it all worked out. Good luck!
Ej2014
This time round I don’t feel ready yet, I’ve had a couple of good relationships
A couple not so good and have done friends with benefits all of which has made me realise what I’m looking for now, at this point in my life.
I do like this guy and we are both starting to share more personal details about ourselves and our lives but for some reason I don’t feel like I’m ready yet and don’t want to rush in.
Is there a better way to explain this if it does come up in conversation tomorrow night?Ej2014
I do believe when it feels right for me, it’ll just happen rather then me thinking about it due to not feeling ready.
I think part of me also wants to find out more about him and see him invested in us dating and if things go well a relationship.Ali
I’d just tell him exactly what you’ve said here. Maybe bring it up during dinner though before he makes a move so he won’t feel like you’re teasing him. If he’s a decent guy, he’ll totally respect that. If he’s not, well you’ll figure it out soon and you’ll be glad you didn’t sleep with him! I don’t see anything wrong with even waiting till you are in a exclusive committed relationship. It’s up to you! Like I said, if he’s a good guy he’ll wait :)
Juliette
Three months??? Someone has stolen Harley and taken over her posts!!! :)
Seriously though, Ej2014, wait until you are ready. A good man will respect that.
Harley
Ha ha Juliette ! WHAT did you mean by that ?? I’m confused. I sleep with guys on first dates,,, but that’s me ! Sometimes… I steal myself ! And become another persona. ha ha ha.
Anyway.. explain. My dumb mick(irish) brain ain’t getting it !
Flower
I wouldnt bring it up, if hé starts anything, i would
Just say something along the lines ‘im not ready yet’ , i need more time. With a smile. Hé ll love you for that, cause you ll leave him wanting more, fantasize about you and also it Will make him think you dont give it up to other guys readily either. Oh, and do not drink. And dont explain much, you dont need to ‘excuse’ yourself for it.Flower
And, let us know ;-)
Ej2014
Thank you for all of the advice :-)
I will be waiting until the times right for me, I haven’t always but it is important to stay true to yourself and your needs, if he is a good guy he will understand and if not he probably isn’t the right match.Tallady
I like evan mark katz on this…. One thing the ladies have not added is that you communicate to him how much he turns you on, that you only sleep with someone you are exclusive and growing with, and that when you do, it will be amazing…until then, have fun going through the bases…
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