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Webbster.
Webbster
So, I got with this girl I’ve known since high school and I’m her first everything. First kiss first relationship etc. We’ve been together for 5 months now and I was just wondering how long is too long to hear the first “I love you”. I know every relationship is different and since I’m her first we’ve been taking things super slow which is fine I want her to be comfortable. But at what point should I be worried if i still haven’t heard her say it?
Miss_A
Are you a guy? If so, she’s probably waiting for you to say it first.
Webbster
Yes I am, we’ve talked a month or 2 ago about it and she said she’ll say it when she’s ready and that it just takes her a while for her to open up to people.
mama
Is this your first relationship too? If it’s been 5 months and you are feeling it, tell her. Maybe she’s waiting for you to say it. You’re the guy, man up and tell her. :)
If she feels safe saying it, then she’ll say so too. If you want to be with someone you love, who loves you, you’ll need to find out sooner or later. You deserve to know how she feels, and she deserves to hear it from you.
Paige
How old are you?
I ask because when I was 20, the fastest way to have gotten me to run was to say “I love you.”
It wasn’t my first rodeo, but I’d advise you watch her and see if she spooks at anything that smacks of commitment, and if that’s the case, wait until she becomes more secure in the relationship.
If you can’t deal with it, find another girlfriend who doesn’t have her hangups.
You won’t be happy if you continue to focus on those three words.
She won’t be happy if she senses that you’re focused on those three words.
Webbster
Paige your advice was really helpful thanks. I don’t wanna scare her off as I like her a lot. I guess I’ll wait to say it until I’m sure she’s comfortable enough and secure enough to say it back. I had planned to say it next month (it would be 6months together at that point) but I guess that connection comes fast for some and slow for some. But I am still worried that if we end up being together for a year and I still haven’t heard it maybe something’s up. To answer previous questions I’m 21 turning 22 this year, this isn’t my first relationship but I’ve been in very little throughout my life and they never lasted long either. Other than simple kissing if things excel she will be my first everything too.
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