For those who need help with NC and letting go.

Yes, you’re right!! It’s time to move on and get over him. It’s not worth it anymore.

Harley, thank you friend!Yea, it’s good to be here, even though I’m new. Yea, we talk and build each other up. Girls are so much stronger than they think and we can do it, even though there will be down days when we will cry, get drunk, complain but we’ll get back to our best self!

Yes, a lot is going there for you so you gonna be busy. It’s always nice having you here cause your advice are precious!

I know , I feel the same some days are GOOD, others just soooo bad and miserable, but different from you , I am not sure if I will feel that crazy again about someone new. I’m not really sure about it. I’m not saying I won’t, just not sure about it.

I’m young, I’m just 25, but still nothing hit me as hard as being with him.

Hi Ladies!!! :)

Imena – What would you like to do with your life? Where do you see yourself in the next 5 years? I’m sure in 5 yrs time you won’t be pining over this guy. You probably imagine you have the career of your choice – a fantastic man, maybe married with children on the way etc? I’m not sure how old you are so those things may be further down the line. Think about what YOU want and stop focussing on him, picture your future as vividly as you can because you’re going to get there!!!

My guy is back with his ex, it’s confirmed – I know he ran between the two of us but the facts are that he is with her. If he didn’t want to be with her, he wouldn’t be. If he wanted to be with me he would be trying to win me back, but he isn’t. He isn’t even communicating with me at all right now. It’s been month since we last spoke so I have to accept things as they are. It’s no that complicated, men aren’t that complicated – we overanalyse things as women and unfortunately – (or fortunately as we may see in time) it just is as it is. Why do we want goys who don’t want us??? We must all be flipping crazy. It’s totally bonkers when you think about it.

Harley – The house will be a great distraction. I think this is just what you need. Throw yourself into it 100%. I’m jealous, i’d love to do a place up. I did an interior design diploma a couple of years back and would love to put it to some use. Great things are round the corner for you, I can tell by your strength of character. Just keep believing it!!!

BC – Fantastic news on the new guy, all sounds great and obviously a much better catch than the other guy. I’m glad hearing from the ex didn’t set you back with the new guy. Keep moving forwards with him and enjoy your time together. He sound like a catch and totally into you! This is how it should be.

i’m still hurting, I know we all are, he’s still in my head 24/7 but we really need to try and be positive and determined about getting over them. I don’t know about you ladies, but I can’t let one stupid guy take me down and tear my life apart. No one is worth that.

Well………..it’s near 3am and I just drove 5 hours to and back from new house with a builder mate. he told me…………….I bought great house for the money and will not take too much renovating. he advised me to renovate it to the minimum and try sell net year for a profit and buy closer to home…………..we shall see.

I thought of Frank the whole time uurgh ! But yes…………house a great distraction. Am finishing off a bottle of wine now……….had 2 glasses with my mate. I shall continue to follow Claire’s advice !

Everybody……………keep ploughing on( trying to forget them !)

Hey ! SHIT weekend for me too……….and me only a one night stand. ha ha ha.

I DON’T believe in getting under someone else/dating someone else…………….NOT UNLESS it feels right. I HAVE to get over one guy first before I can go for
another……….I just KNOW when it’s right……..like Frank.

If you feel this bad.. PHONE HIM!

IF……………you call. WHAT will you say ???????????

I put direct questions to Frank………..no wriggle room……….I got my answers………shit as they were !

I have not drank in a month btw………….since Germany !

Yup.. you have the head screwed on right. me the same…………..no way do I wish to be friends right now……………and NO way FWB in a few mths if he contacts.

Ok………wait it out……………….see if he contacts. BUT……………me………..I would have a short list of bullet point questions I wish to ask…………… just in case he is “really stupid” lol.

Harley, I’m glad this house thing is going well and its distracting you somehow. I went out with friends, too, last night and it looks like we both had wine last night cause me and my friends had wine too. It was fun.

By the way, he texted me yesterday when I was about to go out with friends.

Hi ladies! I’m so glad I’ve found you!
I met a guy 2 1/2 mths ago. We were set up by mutual friends. Him just coming from a recent 16 year relationship and me just months out of a year long. We hit it off from the first date, both agreeing we would just enjoy each others company and not label anything…just have fun. And that we did, i met his friends and family and he met mine. We spent most of our time together, it was amazing. Under the shadows though are his separation and Christmas being just around the corner. I knew it was going to get tough for him to have a new girl on his arm but not this tough. 8 days ago he out of left field told me he needed time to think. He was feeling overwhelmed by everything and needed to step back. He assured me it wasn’t us or me that it was the process of his seperation, Christmas coming and him not knowing how to handle it. He felt it wasn’t fair to me that he was feeling overwhelmed by his issues. So here we are 8 days in of NC from both sides. What’s your take on this? Deep down i am just telling myself to give him what he needs and if its meant to be it will. Its some hard though!!!

So i have been on NC for nearly three weeks now. We first went on a break about 1.5 months ago. He kept checking in which made things rely hard for me. It was very painful after each contact be it call or message. Luckily he had a trip coming up so i thought i’d use the time he’s away to initiate NC.
This worked the first ten days or so then he starting sending me pics of him self whilst away which was very hard to ignore. I went off whatsapp for a few days but soon as i logged back in he sent more and asked how i was keeping. This week he’s made contact three times in form of complimenting my PP.
I have deleted our pics together and blocked his number. I must say i feel so much better and lighter as time goes by. I don’t know what i expect to happen but wanted to work on my self during this NC. The first two weeks were the hardest so i allowed my self to have a pity party after which embarked on self love. I have been shocked, angry, sad, depressed and now healing. The best thing about allowing all that was to let the emotions run through and let go so i could see clearly. Its been tough but i am more than determined to have a good well deserved relationship, and that regardless of whether we get back together or i decide to move on.