For those who need help with NC and letting go.

Don’t worry girl! We are all in that path. It’s been only 5 days for me, from break up. It’s killing me too. Some days are good, some just soooo bad but it will pass, it always does. He was my best friend and I had a double disappointed since he chose to be with someone else but you know??? I am tired of feeling sorry if myself too. It’s their loss, we are awesome!!! Just think about all you can offer as a person and repeat them to yourself. You gonna feel better. No one is worth your pain and sorrow, even your own self. Treat yourself as a princess if no one else does cause YOU is all you have and all you will have whether being a relationship or not. You are worth the best of loves, do not settle for less, do not give your best and your heart to someone who treats you as ordinary. You are special and you deserve to be treated that way. If he doesn’t then he is not the one and you don’t settle for him. If he is stupid enough to walk away, be smart enough to let him go. Love you! Thee are so many people who think you are awesome and great! Why do you need him?

Felicia, you do not need him to let you know all that, you have to feel it too. He might never say those things cause it’s convenient to him. Whenever he feels lonely he calls you, whenever he wants. .. What about you? Where is you here? Your needs ? The world doesn’t turn around him, it has to turn around both of you, in a relationship there is two, not one. It takes two.

I am not as strong as you think sweetheart, otherwise I would have not allowed him to string me along for 10 months, almost a year, but I would have taken action right away, but you know??? You learn along the way. I learned to love myself more and respect myself more. I’m not there yet, I’m on my way. I know you are hurting and I can relate to that, but you are not alone. There are so many girls here going through some tough situations and we are all into this together. You can do it cause you are fantastic, strong and independent. Show him that you can stand for yourself and you can let him go gracefully and he will be surprised, wondering why did he let such a great woman walk away.

Yes, exactly. God has a plan for us, and maybe his plans di nit include these guys but we know that His plans are better than ours so look up and keep your faith and you can come here everytime you need to talk, ir feel tempted to contact him. We be here for you, for each other. So cheer up and enjoy life, no need to be drawn, there are so many good things out there, we just can’t ser them, but they are there ready for us, so embrace them and stop thinking and analyzing about him. It’s nit worth it cause some things are not meant to be understood or answered. Love you! <3

Thank you so much Imena..i will keep that in mind i’ll make sure to message here once i feel like texting him..i really want to forget him..you know i never called him names or i never said the “i hate you” words when we broke up..i was still nice and accepted his decision..afterall he was nice and respectful..maybe he was just not feeling it anymore..and waited for the right moment were i said something to pissed him off..though i ask him many times that if he doesn’t want to continue let me know and he’s the one who said no i don’t want to break up and that was just last week then mon baaam! He dropped me like i’m a hot potato! Lol..oh well i know i was good to him from the beginning i know i’m not perfect i have my flaws but i gave my all but it wasn’t enough for him..oh well not my loss it’s his..

Urgh, i’m having a moment here. I knew this would happen after such a good day. Last night was great. I got a lot of male attention which did wonders for my self esteem, I even got the bar mans number after he spilt his drink all over my handbag. haha! I’m slowly getting back in the game.

Don’t know if it’s the hangover but I’ve just had a moment of realising how much I am still clinging to hope of reconciliation. I’ve been denying to myself but if i’m brutally honest I am still hanging on and I don’t want to be. I’m just thinking about him and her spending christmas together and how his life is probably all coming together nicely after breaking my world apart. I mean he’s just come out the forces and he gets to start new life, new job and he got back his first love who he was going to marry. Urgh!!! This is not a fun feeling.

Definitely need to stop the self torture on fb. It feels weird having mutual friends on there now. His sister just posted a picture with him. I don’t know what to do. Do you think I should delete them? I only saw them on monday, I also wonder whether I look pathetic to him for still being friends with them, but I guess it’s only Facebook at the end of the day. He took down the picture of us that he missed the other day so theres nothing with us together on there now… I’m even listening to myself and thinking I sound daft now. I just wish I could stop obsessing.

Claire,I understand you. I’m in that situation myself. Today, I have been thinking all day long about them spending Christmas , New Year’s and Valentine together, thinking and knowing that he will NEVER leave her… It is torturing me and I don’t have any new guy right now to distract myself, I’m kinda hating dating too. I just don’t know what to do, what to feel. All I think about is him and Ger, what are they doing, are they happy, is he being that romantic to her as he was with me, that passionate, does he ever think or misses me??? KILL ME right now!!!

Yea, let us ALL KILL OURSELVES tonight. Such a stupid bad day…. I hate this season. You have no idea.

Harley, I know you were joking. It was metaphorically speaking from my part too. Of course , no contact allowed. That goes without question but I still can’t believe it. It’s like something deep inside me tells me that he won’t let it go like this. He will show himself. He just feels that you are upset and he won’t show himself now but he will someday , on the other hand , who gives a sh*t? He will still be with her. They will never break up and I cannot believe that a part of me is still waiting for a miracle to happen. SILLY, SILLY ME!! I’m hopeless!

Yea, that’s right. Our hope is NONSENSE. How can I trust him again?! Oh, come on Imena! You know better than this! It’s okay though. I’m just having a bad day. After a few months I would completely recover and happy, full of life. I know. I be okay.

Just had a 31 year old message me on POf.. ” and I want you ! ” AM I supposed to be flattered ????? LMAO ! WHY………..is it ALWAYS the ones you don’t want ! The one before that was 39 ! STILL too young for me !

Yup…………just trying to keep busy. I have German mates talking now though.. yuk reminders !

31’s not too bad! I had a 25yr old and an 18yr old try to convince me to go on a date with them!

F.f is still living in my head rent free! Wish I knew how to evict him!