For those who need help with NC and letting go.

I just nearly checked FB but managed to stop myself! Argh! It’s just too easy to look but I have to think of the damage it will cause if I do. My mum told me the only good thing that could come from checking his facebook would be if I hed broken both of his legs! Haha!

I’m with all you girls! Seems weird to be just cut out but I guess that’s what happens, it’s the only way both parties can heal. I’m not sure I’ll hear from him again Imena. Im pretty sure he has deleted my number in a bid to move on, so he’d have to ask his family for it or reach me through facebook, both of which would I think he’d feel too ridiculous to do. He’s made it official now with her so he’s going to have to try and make it work or he’ll look like the worlds stupidest idiot.

A lot of his friends knew he was trying to get back with me in September so god know what they think of him now being with her so soon after. Everyone knows he’s been flapping around between the two of us! It just looks totally bonkers. I still don’t get it, maybe I never will.

I sent gifts octopus family yesterday, I wonder if they’ll tell him, I’m not really bothered, they bought me gifts so if he were to say anything I’d tell him I was returning the favour. Highly doubt he’d have anything to say though.

I’m wondering how long it will be before she starts fretting about me being friends wit his mum and sister on FB. As a girl it would bother me.

Anyhoo, nothing I can do. I just can’t shake this feeling that it’s still unfinished in some way. I think it’s because of the distance and that we couldn’t end things face to face. It was a weird situation with him coming back from tour too. I do feel if she Hadnt got involved we could have worked things out but if they’re meant to be together then not much can stop that.

It’s been about 6 weeks since we talked and neat 6m since we broke up. I feel so much better but still confused by what the hell happened.

Stay strong Claire. fb does nothing but hurt. We can only predict ourselves so as Imena quite rightly says… why bother with time on them. They don’t deserve our thoughts.

I know you like to stay in touch with his family but I worry he will see it as desperation…for you to hold onto a part of him and he will know he can contact you at any time through them. But. …If you truly don’t care what people think or what I pointed out(I personally would not care)…then by all means stay friends with them

just….stay off the fb. come meet us all in London in March ! hopefully….We will all be healing well by then. I’m getting better. still miss him dreadfully….but know I’m worth more.

Delete his FB… delete delete delete!!

Thanks Harley, my friendship with the family has nothing to do with him so I don’t care what he thinks. If he doesn’t like it he’ll have to ask them to stop speaking to me. I have never initiated reaching out to them, they’ve just kept in touch with me.

dated…..delighted

Imena. ..no date for me… I just missed typed a word earlier. I went for a walk at lunch ch though and 2 nice looking guys hung out of van windows and said a big hello to me. so I gave a radiant smile and said a big hello back !

lots of flirting to be done.

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keep getting ugly fat shit men on my dating site.. huge sigh !

I’m sorry Harley, I missed that.
Hahaha, yea flirting happens all the time. It’s a guy here too who acts like he is really interested but he is a player, he has a gf and acts like he is single and tells me a lot of BS but nahhhh I won’t do it anymore. When he sees me on the streets he says ‘Hi’ and follows me but I am not interested AT ALL. What’s wrong with these guys?! If they are not happy in their relationships then why don’t they confront and break up?! It’s crazy!! They are such cowards.

Hahahaha, sad but true, always the ones we don’t want, but don’t despair girls. It’s always hard to find the right one in this crazy messy world. We’re like diamonds and they have to be diamonds,too, otherwise it is not worth it.

Well said Harley!! Lol…. We don’t need to worry. There is only a reason why things happen. I think in our case things didn’t work with these guys cause we were meant to be for something better, for someone better. Sometimes, good things fall apart for better ones to come.

I’m about an hr and 10 mins plane journey….then another great to get from airport to city centre. ..but I can probably get cheap flights. from the door of my mum’s in Ireland to central.london…5 hrs travel…maximum.

Oh ok that sounds far. I thought I would be like may be 2-3 hrs driving :D

I’m about 120 miles from London, and I am a country girl through and through. I come from a farming family!

I’ve only actually visited the big city 3 times and then only for day trips. Traveling to London alone is a scary concept, however I’m prepared to do it and see it as an adventure….. Even though finding my way around I will literally crap my pants with fear, lol

is 130am here. i still not sleep. today after work i went to Pilates class. it was really good. then headed home cook dinner. my mind still think alot of my ex. i m still reading emails from the internet abt how to become a better woman or how to make men loves u. or how to get yr ex back… omg. i m just so silly wasting my time. i even wonder shall i try search him on fb. so i can know what he has been up to. but ofcoz i didnt. who does he think he is? he walked away, y i have to chase him?
mandy, i still have a few things and a computer of my ex at my home. last week he was coming to pick it up but he told me he couldnt make it at late night… i wanted to throw the computer out my window! haha.
i have been a bit miserable today. but i m sure tomolo will be better!
harley, imena, buttercup. it must b fun to meet up for u all. so good u gals make friends and support here. ?
hope u all r doing good so far! we are not alone!