For those who need help with NC and letting go.

Hey Mandy, I’m feeling better today as well. I had a pretty good day and memories doesn’t hurt anymore. I cried last night too. I think that helps. I’m accepting the fact that we no longer are together and that we never be, I’m accepting the fact that it was not meant to be, we are not destined to be together, we’re miles away and a lot of obstacles in between. So yea, moving on. We will have better days.

You’re always s good mamma. I bet!! I’m sorry you got that yuk feeling after you saw those pics but another lesson learned to not see them anymore.
I’m sorry for your son and his dad. Yea, ups and down sweetheart but our focus is forward, not backwards. We’ve had enough.

My computer and phone are on the blink. urgh.

Yep.. I’m upset my son’s upset.. and I miss shithead.

Lucky you and wine.

Enjoy.

I’ll be grand !

Yep.. bit of a bad day.. it will be better tomorrow. it Always is !

Thanks for being here.

I know.. he is not worth it !

I think in general.. I miss Germany a lot too. I was VERY surprised when back there.. how it felt like I had never been away.

I wish.. I had wine !

Love you too. Yep… I’ll be better. It’s just a wee wobble.

I AM strong and waaay better than him. I need………… a better looking German ! ha ha ha.

Yep yoyo I know how you feel about throwing it out the window haha.. When I told him to come get his things, he was going to leave all his clothes.. I know he couldn’t have missed seeing them because they were laying right beside some other stuff he got… I made sure he got them before he left… I’m wondering now if he was planning on leaving them on purpose.. a reason to come back.. I’m definitely throwing the stuff he did leave in the trash.. None of it is really important anyways..

Imena,
Nice attitude.. I’m glad you realize that distance plays a big role in a relationship… I’m afraid even if there wasn’t another woman.. that it would still be hard to have a long distant relationship..

I’m off for 2 days so I decided to treat myself as well.. I’m going to make some mud slides and hang out with my aunt.. We always have a great time.. Harley I thought about you when I got that Bailey’s Irish cream whiskey :)

Hi all….yep. …I bought card back with a positive attitude today. no point in letting them get us down !! it was just hard seeing photos and wishing I was part of that life. But. …something better is out there !

Mandy… baileys is too easy to drink…but quite potent. I love it. good on you having him get his stuff.. sends a clear message you won’t be messed with. I still have a feeling he’ll be in touch.

yoyo…join us all on fb ! it will get better for us…just takes time.

Imena…yep…you are a fountain of knowledge and sensible advice …hope you have no hangover.

Love you all.

xoxoxo.

Mandy.. just read your heart braking post on other thread and observed you MAY have a wee habit of pushing guys away when you are in love….j and now this guy. I think you may have noticed this yourself as you mentioned it ! any idea how to over come it ???

I am ABSOLUTELY sick to death of having my heart thrashed but I allow myself to be vulnerable as shit and love 9999% until my heart splits. It hurts like hell when they don’t love me back…twice in one year has been a bit rough on me.. Mike And Frank….but I would not have missed either experience for the world.

Mike .. I was able to put in the past after 23 yrs of wondering and Frank…..has taught me what love should and could be like….. and now I wouldn’t settle for less.

point of my rambling….NO PAIN NO GAIN. ya gotta rusk it all…to win it all.

I’m glad to hear you feel better today. That’s great!! Don’t give him all the power! Save it for yourself!

Ha ! my online scammer is supposedly coming to the UK ??? I wonder shall he want to meet ? hahaha.

Harley your such a peach :).. its 4 am here and I’m still alive and kicking haha! I like the Irish cream teehee!!

I did the same thing today Harley I looked at my old post.. How ironic is that? I saw all of my short comings with him.. Plus in all my other relationships.. I haven’t been broken up with since I was in Junior high school.. I have actively walked away from every relationship I’ve ever had. Even my marriage. I too, like you see my pattern in it.

Especially when I have strong feelings.. I get scared and sabotage my own love life.. I have been self aware of this and I’m actively trying to work through this.. Not sure why I do it..

I also saw all the wrongs I did to my ex… and now I feel more than ever that its a great learning lesson..

Imena, Sass, Claire, Buttercup, yoyo, etc.. y’all should all look me up on FB. I’m on Harley’s friends or Raven’s or Sherri’s.. I’m Amanda Wright :)

My son is 21…gorgeous…but low self esteem from my dad and I and my mad crazy family. but.. I am a LOT nicer to him these days. It will get better for him…I keep trying. He bounces around between all our houses and feels nobody wants him…but he knows I love him. He’s just…..hard work

yes…you have to learn to not self sabotage. I used to be very argumentative….now i am heaps better. I just want a quiet life as much as possible Le. The simple fact is… If you keep going on the way you are.. you will never hold down a relation ship. same as me with arguing. I rarely argue now. . and life is sooo much better.

at least you are aware of all this.. me too and we are trying to self improve. I try not to drink.much either with a guy… as I found it made me say things I shouldn’t. now. …I water my drinks down.

lots of love honey xoxoxo

I’m sorry you have to deal with these things at home,too. I can relate to your son. I’m 25 and my dad is criticizing and he doesn’t even know what encouragement means. He has no idea and for awhile I struggled with my self- esteem and always tried to prove to others that I’m worth it etc… Such a crazy time. I still struggle with it sometime, but it is different now. I do not argue and do not pay a lot of attention to him or what he says.

Too bad…half loved… You don’t need that.

I love you too, dear!! You’re amazing!