For those who need help with NC and letting go.

Yes Imena….parents are hard work too
.When they are stressed..it’s easy to say all the wrong comments and crush your child’s self worth. I try to build his up these days. He is a great kid. It will all improve…you need an appt. ha ha ha.

Mandy…hang in there. I see loads of mistakes I made with my ex hubby…..that I would never do again. and i am determined now…not to sweat the petty thing….and not pet the sweaty things..

Yoyo, do not reply now. He can’t go and come whenever he wants not respecting your feelings. Let him know he can’t take you for granted. Do not reply now, let him chase you. Let him prove himself he is worth it. Words mean nothing, actions do. Please, do not reply.

Harley, I did have my own apartment and shared it with my sister and another girl. I have been living alone for six years but had to get back to my hometown due to the fact that I have to do my teaching practice and had to do it here in my hometown which I hate. Now you can imagine what it means to be independent and now you gave to experience another transition like this. It’s not helping my current situation either hut as soon as I an done with this teaching practice I plan to move. This place holds too many memories and I am used to my own freedom and independence and want it back.

wow Imena.. that’s rough. how much longer do you have to stick it out there ??? I’m with my sister at the moment….just as bad. I can’t wait to have my own place again…I hate living by her rules. oh.. The joys of life fir the 2 of us !

Yep. ..doubt is good…isn’t it ??? means you could be deciding he is not for you !!!

way to go Imena…me just focusing on me…son and house. A very quiet xmas planned…no cash for otherwise. New year shall take care of itself..and 2015 too.

imena,i get wht u mean. i just dun get they break yr heart. but still tell u they care. if care.. i wanna tell my ex to enjoy his trip. but mayb i reply him later. my wound is still hurting. he left me. now when i m starting gettin little better. he poke me.. i have feelings.

Yup. …smoke in the air..The right guy proves his words.

scrawny. ..thin chickens at that. It’s been a good day today. .tomorrow can only get better and then the weekend !

Oh indeed…men always underestimate me. This guy thinks because he ‘got me ‘ for one night …He had his conquest. ….He don’t know me that well at all ! yes…We will all be stronger and stronger when they come back again. silly little boys….should not mess with fiery women !

I meant doing instead of going. :p

I was great.. till now… We are still friends on Facebook and anywhere else and I saw him online. I don’t know, today I am missing him. I’m drinking wine right now and for some reasons I feel like crying. At least, I wish he could apologize but he has completely forgotten about me. I bet he doesn’t even think about me. I got these mixed feelings going on like love, hate, anger, indifference, emptiness .. I don’t know. I’m so emotional right now. I hate drama but here I go again. Well, I hope I get better soon. I have to. He has to go out of my head and heart and I should stop thinking about him, longing about the past times.

Hi Ladies,

Glad we’re all feeling a bit better. Imena – the mixed feelings will settle down eventually, it’s just natural. It gets easier, I promise you, hang in there.

I think i’m pretty much over it you know. The only thing that’s going to sting a bit is if I see further happy pictures of them, but that doesn’t need to happen if I don’t look. This last week has been really good. I feel like i’m actually looking forward to christmas and things are looking up. So pleased i’ve got myself right in time for the festive period so I don’t have to spend it miserable. My friend said they have noticed a change in me too. I feel so much more happier and positive. I’m actually enjoying my own single life and my independence. The thought of being in a relationship just feels tiring to me right now, I can’t be bothered with the rows and negotiating things, getting pissed off if he’s acting selfish etc. I’m really enjoying being selfish myself and doing exactly what I want, when I want and with who I want. I think i’m gonna start to seriously rock single life! I’m looking forward to spending more time on my own and figuring out who I am and what I want from life right now.

things have been getting better in work too and my boss asked me if I wanted to be filmed representing our company in the new year! I thought why the hell not, and said yes! It’s quite exciting. I’ve put the tree up tonight so the house is looking festive and i’m on a big night out with old friends tomorrow who I haven’t seen for ages! I can’t wait. I need to get a super sexy outfit sorted out tomorrow! haha!!!!

The more time goes by, the more I realise that me and my ex just were’t a match at all, we’re from quite different worlds. I enjoy the time we had together, it was a giggle, but there was nothing deeper than that. I would have never been able to have a deep and meaningful conversation with him and I realise I do need someone who is more on my level that way.

Here’s to new beginnings, 2015 is gonna be a good one for us all. I can feel it :)