For those who need help with NC and letting go.

Great Posts Imena.

hugs Sass, Imena and all others. .Sass….We ALL feel the same it sucks. but….nothing changes. repeat. …nothing changes. The chemistry is still there for all of us but….not enough for them to do anything about it.

IF…We met them all tomorrow they would try to sweet talk and sex us into bed again…We’d be treated like dirt again and back to square 1. so….have the wobble…but get over it.

IF…they wanted us….they know where we are.

Join us all on fb Sass..The regulars are all there and wondering where you are. You. Claire and R.

WE WILL GET THROUGH THIS. We will all message each other Xmas day.

I think WE think we’d like revenge.. but I think WE’RE TOO NICE to actually enjoy that. I think they will realise in time.. without us having to say anything. Us looking shit hot and partying on, is revenge enough. I don’t wish to be bitter, cruel or horrid.

I want……….to kill him with kindness next time I see him. I GENUINELY hope I can greet him with smiles and friendship……..and he wonders “WTF……..I let a good one go !”

HA HA HA !

Yup………… I want to be able to smile, look sexy and say ” you didn’t offer me enough, I want more, much more “.. I actually WON’T enjoy saying it as I hate to hurt him and It’s not revenge.. it’s just the plain old truth. And I think he deserves to know it. I don’t like to leave people wondering , like guys do us.I couldn’t go back to the same situation with him……..I’d be tore apart all over again and my heart thrashed.

But hey………maybe I won’t run into him again for years.. another 23.. ha ha ha.

Yes yoyo,, work away and add me on fb. The more the merrier.

We will all be ok. get through this together.

Imena………you could be married before you know it. THINK of all we have learned… no more assholes and bullshitters for us ! I’ll only get married again if I meet the right guy. 6 mths ago… I said I’d never get married again.. so look at how I have changed !

Never say never !

Yea well………… you got time. Anyway…….if your parent’s don’t go ape shit…….you could just move in with the next guy !

I…………take mad chances.. when you know, YOU KNOW !

sass,

i wanna drop u a few lines too.
imagine yrself the reason u have brought to this world, is like going to a school, to learn alot of different things, during this time, u may b given different homework/task to work on it. sometimes is difficult, sometimes is extremely difficult because u have never learn how to work on it. thinking back in yr experience at school or work. is there one thing u didnt go through it? no right? because otherwise we wont be here still. keep imagining with me, sometimes when your ‘homework’ become easy is not because is an easy task. but its because either u have done a similar subject, so u have become wiser to finish the task by yrself. or sometimes u may need other ppl to help u, then u can use it as a reference. i recall just like my old job. i have done really difficult projects and i was feeling stress and even cry becoz i worry i couldnt do it myself. but the projects are always finished in its own way and after i finished. i felt so happy and excited. there is nth in the world can give me the same of happiness with any cost.
anyway, wht i m trying to say in here, is i wanna share my thoughts with all of you gals. in lifes, we get ourselves in pain all the time is because we have fear. we worry abt the future. just like i used to worry i couldnt do my projects. or even in my relationship, even when things r well. u still worry that u may not be the lucky one to have such an amazing relationship, in this world, there are only 3 things:
1)your own business
2)other ppls business
3)gods business

dear all,

we all should focus ourselves. other ppl have their own choice. ppl can do whtever they want, is none of your business. and for the god, things will just fall into places in the right time. so there is nth to worry.

we will all be given different ‘homework’to work on it. maybe this time we didnt get 100marks but thats ok. is just an experience. we can be prepare for the next exam. just that we dun know when the exam will b taken. so be prepare, is always the best. and try not to focus on why couldnt get the result u wanted. when u were not ready. is not ready. but no worry. it will get there one day.

today i had such a busy day. i had absolutely no time to think abt my ex. and its a very good feeling. remember if he could live without u. so can u. and i m telling myself i will become better and better, not becoz i want him to regret, but is actually to do it for myself. spending sometime to b alone, be single, sonetimes i feel its a good time for ourseleves to get back on the right position. sometimes when we are in love, we lost ourselevs. so now its time to pick ourselve up. try to be happy ourselves. or i know there are times is difficult. but at least to b ok. how risky and ricducious if u r trying to ask someone/something to ‘make’ us happy?! is nobodys responsibly and it will never b.

at last, try to b peaceful, joy within ourselves, the ‘homework’ we just try our best to do. even result not good. no worries, we will get there. ?

yep… great post. I think we are all working on doing the “homework”

Maybe next time I WILL be more cautious Imena ! Time shall tell I guess.

Hi girls,

Just a quick update. The ex text today. Asking if I could meet him to talk on Tues. I can’t as I have my kids so he asked if we could speak on the phone today. Told him I was only free till 5.30 so he said he’d call at 5 after his boys had gone home. (this was at 4).

Did he call. Did he fuk.

Do you know what? I’m not even bothered now. I’ve reached a point where I’m just indifferent now. I shouldn’t have even replied to him really. I just get curious to hear what crap he’s gone come out with next.

I’m convinced the fact I reply is just enough for him to think I’m at here waiting for him. Well I’m not! I had a great date tonight!

Want sure it was going to be a good night though. When I got to new man’s house his ex wife was knocking his door as I parked, so I sat in the car and waited until she had left. But she sat in her car for ages waiting for me to get out. Then he came out and she started hurling loads of abuse at him about the fact that he was with me!!!

Awkward!!! She ended the marriage and has had another bloke ever since. Now I’m with her ex husband she suddenly wants him back!

The day of the Fukin ex all round I reckon!!

Oh well! I’m happy though. I feel really happy actually!

She allegedly came over to talk about their son. She knew I’d be coming over at that time though. She also kicked off about him having me in her bed and her house. SHE LEFT HIM!!! He bought her out of the house. She has had no interest in having him back until I came along.

I do sense trouble ahead. But… I’m not invested yet. I like him a lot but I’m not in love yet. So guard up and staying up!

Hey ladies, my story is OVER!!! He has clearly moved on with her and are happy again. I was just a tool for the hard times. I feel so low and so bad. Anyway, I deleted his number and I will delete him from Facebook. He didn’t give a fuck for my broken heart.

Thanks Harley!! I still can’t believe it. I’m sooooo SURPRISED!! REALLY!! SO SURPRISED!!!

Well, I feel like shit. I just blocked him on FB. You say be proud but I can’t even be proud. I let him use me like a piece of garbage and threw me away like I was a piece of unwanted obstacle, a garbage.

That’s weird!!! Hope this new Frank replies!

I feel like crap!