For those who need help with NC and letting go.

Arghhhh, nope yoyo is not me. Try it with capital letters like Imena Imena, it’s a pic of mine there, I have dark hair, black hair. I can’t believe there is no match there. You can also try it just Imena. I hare this is happening. You can share your details with me. Maybe I find you.

He’s just being nice/polite.

i’d reply… out of niceness.. but short .. ” you too ”

and if he replies.. ignore.

HE has to learn… to put waaaay more effort in !

You’ll be ok honey.. we are all in the same shite boat.

Supporting.. each other.

WOOHOO Carrie. Good news. HAPPY happy, romantic Xmas.

the rest of us.. shall be fine. YES.. I demand effort.. BIG effort. it ain’t happening. ! I have sense… behind all the madness !

Have a wonderful Xmas and New Year.

Merry Christmas ladies! I know it’s a hard day to be alone but take advantage of friends and family around you. They would love to share their special day with you! Most of all, know that the holidays are almost over and 2015 is right around the corner.

To better and sexier days!:)

Ha Ha Imena.. THAT is too funny… your unfriending him got a reaction. And… he’s keeping you on the back burner.

Or.. hes been genuinely nice for Xmas.

Be wary.. you may get more messages, I would not “friend” him again.. not anytime soon anyway.

Keep going forward, the way you are going. Don’t settle for his crumbs.

Yup.. same as me. I’m doing good. I had a lie in, just up, going to get breakfast, walk the dog, catch up with some mates and go visit family.

You have it all figured out in your head.

The ????? was actually an emoticon , but don’t know why it won’t appear , ..merry Christmas !!!,

Yup.. me feeling the same as you.. stronger and stronger. I need to find a hot date for a family wedding in June next year !

Aizra.. he was just being nice with the Xmas wishes. Keep going forward like us. We ALL want guys that put the effort in. not ones that are hard work and we have to second guess.

Harley, it still feels kinda bad occasionally that they don’t want us and moved on and are happy with someone else. It still kinda hurts that they dint want you. But there is no point dwelling on it any longer. It’s time to move on and forget, delete, forget and accept the fact that there is no more chance for us to be together.

Ugly & married?! Ha ha ha, well….let’s hope so cause otherwise I smell trouble in the air :p :p

I am glad this house thing is serving as a distraction for you and I am happy to see you in such a good spirit!! Well yea… It’s Christmas! :)

ladies, i m very well indeed. a lot of things after i back to my home town and i m very happy everyday so far. sorry abt i didnt keep updating my status. and tonight i m sick… i took some pills to sleep. but i woke up with my high temperture. please everyone, take care of yrself. i guess i didnt wear enough clothes so i got a fever now.

things are full of surprise dun u gals think?
y i say that tonight? a few things happened these couple days and i would love to share w u. may give u a little distriction if u r still feeling miserable.

remember i said b4 my ex on 24th sent me gappt xmas and all the best blah blah blah. i ignored and deleted his msg in whts app. and i was feeling a bit regret after i deleted his name as if later on i wanna reply. i couldnt becoz i dun have his number in my phone anymore. anyway. as already deleted. forget abt it. but yesterday he hello me and calls me pet name. this time i ignored again. i told my gf abt this and ask wht she does in the past abt ex keep contact or how. she told me she also sometimes get a soften heart. couldn’t resist to reply sometimes but one day her friend told her one thing made her stop all the reaction. fd said: u really dun have other friends in yr life? she thought wow. yes. i have alot of friends y i still need him anyway, so she cut him off totally. the him was my brother btw. she thought if sth is important he would pick up the damx phone and call. words is cheap and she thought is unacceptable. ofcoz my brother chase her back now they r married now.
i m not saying we need to do same to get him back. just we should have standard and shouldnt freak out ourselve when they just sent a stupid txt to us. stop making them so easy to reach us too. like this time. i guess my ex was really bored so txt me to entertain him but sorry.. i m not available. so ladies. heads up. walk forward. everything is gonna b cool.????

my second thing i wanna share w u all is this little story.

i recently assigned a group called couch surfing and on my second day i back to my home town. received a request from a guy from my country. in my profile i have already said gals only becoz i dun want make things complicated. this young guy, have won a competition and he won a 3months trip travelling the world. and the first stop is dubai. since i m having my holiday here now and he is from my home town. i reply him nicely saying i wish i could help but not sure if u all no in dubai, gal and guy if u r not marry and stay together. is against the law and the gal may put to jail. anyway i hsve watch this young mans movie clip. his clip that he took for the competition. i felt he has a good heart and i m surprise abt his attitude ia very positive and i want to support him when he is trying to do sth with a dream. i even asked my colleagues to host him for a few nights if they a available. but the funny thing happened last night. trust me this is so hilarious. this young guy saw my positive and movtiactive msg so he asked to meet up for a coffee. and i thought y not. so i made a plan to meet for an hr for coffee this afternoon. last night i was having dinner w a gf at soho area. i saw this young guy was sitting right next to my table. i was wondering isnt it him? the moment he starts to talk i thought the voice is also very familiar. but as my battery die. i couldnt txt ask if is him. then i left the restaurant. and i txt him w a little battery i just charged at the restaurant. i asked if he had dinner yet. he told me he is dinning and y. i said the restaurant name. omg. we both freak out the world is so small. today i met him in person. we both felt this whole thing how we met was full of surprises. and he said to me. i m back for 3nights. he met me 2 times already.
anyway. i wish him all the best. i m sure he will have a unbelievable amazing world trip. see, life is full of surprises. is amazing, if we have peaceful in our heart. see things whts happening in yr present. u found yrself actually everything isca gift. and each gift was specially made for YOU.

I think the new guy is backing off.

He’s been really quiet over Xmas. I knew he’s seen his children lots so I don’t expect to be seeing him.

But he’s gone from being very consistent to replying to a text, to taking hours. We don’t text much anyway but it must feels different.

I text him Xmas eve to which I had no response at all. Xmas day he text, and we sent a few texts back and forth. He didn’t reply to my last one which was regarding meeting on boxing day evening.

So last night I just text asking if all was Ok.
I wasnt meaning it in a needy way but I refuse to get involved with yet another man who chooses to ignore contact. Said he been with his kids. I get that, and as I said, I didn’t expect to see much of him over Xmas anyway.

Today he sends a long text explaining that he was sorry he’d been quiet, and that his children had wanted to be with him over Xmas so he’s been making the most of it. I replied saying he doesn’t owe me any explanation, and that I only asked if all was Ok because he’d ignored my last text and that if he was backing off id rather he was honest instead of ghosting
On me.

No reply.

I’m not gonna get into anything with a man that ghosts again. If this is how he’ll be, then I will walk.

My heads in other places anyway…