For those who need help with NC and letting go.

7 yrs

Thanks……I have had no contact with him. I lost my boyfriend to FB … He and his ex were friends. But then they started flirting on FB and I sent him a request to be his friend on FB. And he ignored it and never answered. When I approached him about it he said they were just friends….but I know better. There were some comments that he wrote on her timeline which is VERY indicative that they are talking or seeing each other or are about to see each other. It’s killing me cuz they were together last New Year’s Eve. When I asked him why he wouldn’t accept me as a friend, he said that he doesn’t like or isn’t interested min things I post…..,bull shit…..he was hiding me from her. I want to so bad go and talk to this woman…I know where she works. I want to tell her that he is bad news….,she has no ideas I exist..,,.,sht I’m soooo mad. I couldn’t stop thinking about this….I stopped looking at his FB and hers..,.,I deactivated my acct….cuz I t was hurting so much…..NC for 7 days. So I have his coat and I owe him 100.00. Ugh!,,,,,thank god I found this website…..been reading all your entries…..it’s helping me….thank you. Him and I have been together for three years off and on…one time we were away for ten months and got back together. That’s when he dated this other girl.

Imena
..Our guys sure are dumb pricks. Onwards and upwards to new and better guys. I need a rich builder to come work on my house ….and me. you…..can be with me in spirit tomorrow night!

Sauve
..get a grip. Control yourself. ..you are coming across as crazy. .I know it’s the emotions but don’t get revenge. ..maintain dignity and the high moral ground. If it’s been on and off for 3 yrs.. It has NOT been a good rrelationship. stay No Contact with him. …who cares about the damn coat…you are using it as an excuse to get back in touch. just keep coming here and venting with the rest of us.

listen to Imena. she’s had her heart torn into a million pieces and is picking it up and putting it back together as we speak. ..prettier…sexier. ..and stronger than ever.

These men will not define who we are but what we have become….unbreakable…unstoppable. A force to be reckoned with. We have all changed for the better….Thanks to their idiotic dicks and behaviour.

God is bloody put to get me !The radio in my car has been broke for about 2 years and I keep forgetting to get it fixed.

my son gets it working tonight and what’s the first station that plays ??????…….

An EFFING bloody German talk station. I could…..scream ! and NOW…The song that is playing. .. ‘we should be lovers because we can’t be friends ‘…I am jinxed !

plain bloody sucks ! next up….The radio station had an interview with an Irish wedding planner….called. ….Franc ! Urgh ! yep….am singing my tuneless little head off ! lmao.

Thank you both Imena and Harley…..I won’t do anything stupid. I’m not stooping to his level. I feel much better. I said those things out of anger but I calmed down…..I’m in disbelief ….. Completely numb and speechless that this happened. Came out of nowhere….I caught him and he made it my fault I was unappreciative bla bla bla then he broke up with me……”I don’t want a relationship, I’m breaking up with you, have a nice life”. Is what he said to me. Cuz I caught him…..why are men such liars and why are they so stupid….what’s worst…..I had fallen in love with him….this is so hard. I feel like my heart was ripped apart….I going thru bad withdrawals here. Can’t focus or function at work. I slept all weekend, couldn’t get out of bed, I was so depressed. How long does this last…..????

a text… I meant to say strictly no contact

And keep this in mind, when you lose something you gain smth else, and when you gain smth else you lose smth, so basically, you are never a loser!! It is all based on your perspective, how you see it! :)

Happy New Year to you too Harley and to all the ladies in this forum. This year has not been a good one for me so I don’t mind leaving it behind for new opportunities. I am nostalgic for some great things that happened this year but like everything else, nothing lasts forever and time flies. It’s inevitable! I think I will be well drunk tonight too.

Oh. ..I’ll stay safe. I seriously doubt the love of my life shall be out in my hick town. .but you never know !

Imena…I’ll be thinking of you as I’m drinking.

Suave….just try to keep busy…clean the house a million times…go for a walk…take up a new hobby in the new year…go online… read…anything to try to distract yourself. and leave you exhausted. The 1st 3 weeks are the worst.

I will be taking my sleeping pill early too. And up for work early too :-(

I haven’t heard from the guy im seeing since Monday and then it was one text to say he couldn’t meet. He’s changed from being very consistent and reliable to almost non existent over Xmas. I’m sure this has something to do with the ex wife.

All I know is its not good enough for me. I’m not interested in someone who shows such little interest. I’ll let the festive season pass and life resume to normal next week. And if it continues into next week I’m gone.

I’m not over D anyway. I know this. But it’s been a distraction for me.

I’m going abroad on holiday in two weeks, can’t wait! I need some sunshine.

And on my return I can focus on my future.

I’m really enjoying my friendship right now with my closest male friend. We got so close after both of our recent break ups, and just lately he’s told me he loves me (as a friend) and writes the loveliest things about me on Facebook. He’s usually very private but just lately he’s making it known to others how much he values me. This is the quality I want in the next man I have a relationship with. I can phone him late at night and he’ll come straight over. When he knows I’m having troubles he checks in daily to see if I’m Ok, he’s honest, genuine and loyal. I want a man with his qualities :-)

BC, those are qualities I guess we all want in our significant other. I want those things too. I haven’t found that someone yet. I don’t know when and if I ever will find someone like that though. I’m kinda insecure about that lately.

I’m sorry this new guy is not showing the same interest on you. Yea you see how things will go after this crazy season than if you see that he is not making any effort any more and he is being distant or so then you know what to do. I believe in your judgment! You are a beautiful, strong and a smart intelligent woman!

I’m home, no plans to go out this new year’s eve. I’m kinda torturing myself thinking how much fun couples are having tonight, my ex included with his girl. I wish I could get a pill and forget about him forever. Yesterday was my third week of NC. I just wish it could be easier and forget him immediately. Anyway, I am sorry NYE is not going well for you. Mine feels just like an ordinary day.

I am not sure when I’ll ever be over my FWB for three years situation. He is now married to the one he loves and it wasn’t me. Really hurts all the time still after 8 months. Just so sad. I don’t even care about meeting anyone now. I finally stopped looking at his FB page. I just couldn’t help but look even though that was just the worst thing to see. All his new pics with the love of his life. I’m staying off it for now but it was just too easy to look but I realized it was not good to see and just had to stop. So I continue with other things in my life but forgetting is not happening so far. Never wish this on anyone and very sad it had to happen to me. Good luck everyone!