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Miami
Hey,I was texting with a guy from a dating app. And he seemed like a sweet, warm guy. then we exchanged numbers. However, he asked to meet Friday night. And unfortunately I had a lot of work that day and couldn’t get free so I informed him and we scheduled a next day. And kept in touch. However, he didn’t even ask me that day if we should meet. So I also didn’t bring it up, as I was busy that day as well. Now we again decided to meet up on Tuesday after work. Again yesterday he didn’t bring it up. He told me today in the morning that he “forgot” to meet me. I did not like that tbh,I mean I don’t feel much interested in meeting a guy who “forgot” to meet me and is sorry about it and asked if we could reschedule. I know he doesn’t owe me anything as we have just texted and spoke on call a few times, but if I am so random that he forgets to meet me, I don’t want to waste my time on him. So I don’t wanna meet him. What do you think should I meet him or not?
Gaia
He didn’t forget. Men who are seriously interested in even just a hook-up will not forget about a date they planned with a woman. He is probably not really interested in meeting anyone face to face. There are a lot of bored men that go on apps to have a text buddy. Weed them out fast. This one already “forgot” about a date. Why would you even bother with him anymore? If that is his best first impression, it is seriously lacking.
Liz Lemon
100% what Gaia said. A man who’s serious about dating would not “forget” to meet a woman he is interested in. This guy sounds like a flake. He’s not even trying to make a good first impression. He’ll text and talk on the phone and waste your time for as long as you let him.
Lane
He’s most likely “e-tethering” you (look it up). These men aren’t serious, they just want to waste a ladies time getting their ego stroked without having to spend a dime. If they haven’t scheduled a day, time and place to meet within a few very basic interactions, and follow through, you drop them pronto.
Heck, why should a guy take a lady out when there are so many willing to give him her time and life information out for free? Sadly, there are millions of ladies who are now dating their phone v. going on actual dates, and in doing so, will entertain a man for WEEKS/MONTHS until the guy bores of them and the lady comes here asking why he “ghosted her” when they never even met! Its crazy! Unfortunately because of them, you will have to spend a lot of your time weeding out the e-tetherers and phone daters—sorry :o(
Miami
Wow it is seriously nice to hear that I didn’t make a mistake. However, could it be that he was nervous or something? Because when I told him I don’t try making plans again. He said do you want to meet now, I can come. I told him no thanks I have a job 10-7, I can’t just go out on a date it in between. These weren’t my exact words, I can’t remember what I said exactly. And then I blocked him. Do you think the last bit was a bit harsh? I mean since I am not planning on meeting him why keep in contact?
Miami
Yeah he said: you want to meet now? I can come. Make up for yesterday
Liz Lemon
What kind of a guy wants you to meet him right then and there, while you’re working? That’s disrespectful of your time! He’s not capable of making a date and sticking to it? Anyway even if you had agreed to meet right then and there, there’s no guarantee he still wouldn’t have flaked and stood you up.
It doesn’t matter if he’s nervous, or whatever his reason is. He’s not serious about dating if he can’t make a date with a woman and stick to it. Seriously you don’t want to get involved with a guy who can’t do the bare minimum, which is make a date and show up.
AngieBaby
“I forgot about our date” = bye Felicia. There’s no excuse for that – stop being so understanding and accommodating by looking for some reason like he was nervous. I wouldn’t even accept “I forgot about our date” from a 12 year old! What Gaia and Liz said, 100%!!
And then wants you to drop everything and come and meet immediately…I doubt he would have shown up for that either. You were 100% right to cross off the list and block. Time waster. Your time and energy and attention are extremely valuable and you should be careful about who you share those things with. Someone proves right up front he’s not worthy, you absolutely block and keep on going without any look back or regrets.
Lane
Miami, you did the right thing! Seriously, the guy had three opportunities and bailed all he did was show you he’s Mr. Unreliable and dodged a bullet. Don’t make excuses for these kind of guys—continue to hold out for Mr. Reliable :o)
mama
It’s not a great feeling when someone says they forgot about you. He had a chance, but he sounds like a flake. I’d block him too! lol
Miami
There is an update:. He texted a “hey” on snapchat. What does that mean? Either apologize and make new plans or just don’t text. What is this “hey” supposed to mean
Honesty Rocks
He’s really digging deep with that hey eh. Jeez
Block this loser. Do you want a relationship or a
Dumb Snapchat pen pal ?Raven
@Miami, it means he’s not worth any more of your time…
Angel
That’s a bad excuse instantly I would think either a ‘better’ date came up , he is a relationship or he just doesn’t care enough. Let’s skip him and find someone who doesn’t forget .
Miami
Blocked him. Thanks.
Trixie
He would be a time waster. A guy who is into you and sees your value (and healthy minded) would not act this way. Move forward.
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