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Gianna
My ex blocked me a few weeks ago after I said I no longer wanted to be in a FWB situation with him.
I do love him and ideally want to be with him, but I know that I need to start meeting people and moving forward.
We have a mutual friend on social media who has expressed an interest in meeting me. I know I am free to do as I please, but I don’t want to do something that will make things worse or awkward.
What would you do? (Keep in mind, neither of us have actually met this guy).Khadija
You’re worried this will hurt your chances of a reconciliation.
If your’re ex blocked you because you didn’t want to be his booty call, I say good riddance.
In the case of this mutual friend I say pass. You still seem hung up on this ex and need time to heal.Gianna
I’ve definitely been in the “ex trap”. I have not pursued anyone else. I’d actually like to meet this guy though. He seems really nice and I’m tired of putting my life on hold.
Khadija
How long ago did you two break up?
When did the FWB start?Idk, if you’re saying you still love him why not get over that first?
Gianna
We have been broken up since last August. Only FWB and back in contact the last few months.
I get what you’re saying. I think part of me will always love him. But I still need to move forward in my life. I am not looking to rebound or rush into anything… just meet nice guys again and get out there.
If it wasn’t someone we were both friends with, I wouldn’t be asking for advice here. Really, I am just looking for thoughts on meeting this particular person.Kathy
I say meet him.. What have you got to lose?
Khadija
If you think you’re ready to go out so be it.
Just don’t mention him too much to this guy. Especially since neither of you have met him in real life.Newbie
I think its a terrible idea, just because he is an on line pen pal and a mutual pen pal with your ex. And how expressive was this guy about meeting you? I think you still have feelings for your ex, which will take time and somehow affecting this sudden interest in this ‘mutual’ friend. I would continue sage burning ex memories instead
Gianna
He’s asked me several times over the course of the past couple months.
I haven’t taken him or anyone else up on their offers.
I should have been all along.Mandy
Noooooo!!!
Don’t take up any guy that comes along. Don’t put yourself into situations that can also cause drama. This will make things worse if your ex at a later date decided she indeed wants to reconcile and is missing you now that you’re out of his life.
I say? Leave the mutual pal. Heal. Get over the break up with this FWB and wait for the right one, not just anyone
kaye
How do you have a mutual friend neither of you have ever met? Seems to me you are using the term friend loosely. How did you become “friends” with this guy? Because he’s not really a friend of your ex I don’t see an issue. BUT If the guy is long distance I say absolutely NOT!
Gianna
He’s a local guy I’ve chatted with and interacted with for several years, but I wouldn’t be “friends” or whatever with him if it wasn’t for my ex.
I think meeting him will cause unnecessary drama as I move forward. He may be a good guy, but I don’t want to be in the position of being so close my ex.
I’ve decided not to. Thank you for your input! ♡
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