Friends with benefits

It usually lasts as long as the woman keeps allowing herself to be used, or until the man falls for a woman who has higher standards for herself.

It’s fascinating to me . I really really wish I had the capacity to have a FWB myself but I know I would get attached . I’ve never had one . I think I could likely have sex with a guy who I don’t really respect (since attraction + respect is what makes me fall for a guy)… however , without the respect , I kinda lose that attraction . Too bad . Kudos to those who can do it though …
But yeah to answer your question ,
I would think the most likely is someone getting feelings for someone else and dating someone else . Ouch , that would bruise my ego even if I didn’t like the guy like that !

They as long as BOTH parties are interested in keeping it going, and they end when one doesn’t.

I had two when was going through different phases in my life and had ZERO desire to be in a relationship with anyone but I was missing that sex or companion element so they worked perfectly for me!

The first was sex only. I had ended my 20+ year marriage but a woman still has sexual needs. I didn’t want to hop in bed with a bunch of strangers, and neither did he, so it worked well for us as he lived out of state and came to mine for work, we would ‘hook up’ the weekend he was here, and then we did our thing the times he wasn’t. This lasted about a year as I was busy doing a lot of “weekend activities” such as softball, golf and doing social things with friends and was too busy for sex lol. I said good-bye, ended it, that was it and we’ve never spoken to each other again.

My second was just like a “relationship” but without the romantic love context. I truly loved him as *a friend only* where we had a great time going out and doing couply type things which we did more of than just having sex. His feelings unfortunately grew into wanting more but mine never did so after 18 months I had to end it as he was becoming too needy, jealous and passive-aggressive.

There are all kinds of FWB’s/NSA’s/Flings and all I will say is you not only need to go into it with the non-romatic mindset but should express what your needs and boundaries are BEFORE you go into it so there’s no confusion as that’s the primary reason they end when ‘feelings’ develop with one but not the other.