Gf broke with me due to me fighting with her in periods and i don't know whatto

This is life’s way of saying you aren’t the right match for each other. Sometimes you need to take a big step back and look at the relationship from the outside to see how toxic it truly is. Words can cut like a knife and when there’s so much damage caused from them, it’s impossible to not only recover but to fully stop the damaging patterns that have resulted in these kind of fights.

You are both toxic and dysfunctional in this relationship. You cannot ‘improve or mature’ in a toxic relationship. If anything, it will become far worse because you will continue to repeat the same toxic patterns where any ‘trigger’ (saying or doing the wrong thing) will set you and/or her both off and continue to engage in these nasty fights. This is not how couples treat each other in a healthy relationship; its how they treat each other in a dysfunctional relationship.

The first step towards improving or maturing is ACCEPTING that this relationship is not healthy for you. You both lack the communication and skills to work through problems or issues as *a team* and prefer to tear each other down. There is no magic wand that will suddenly fix or change this. The kind of change you are seeking requires a lot of personal introspect; acknowledging the areas you are weakest in; and then doing the ‘hard work’ on yourself, outside of a relationship, to overcome it. There needs to be a lot of healing, self discovery and inner work before you can know if you have actually improved or matured. The real test will be how your next relationship goes–if its the opposite of this one you succeeded, if not, you have more work to do.