Ghosted after fourth date, was it my fault?

I feel this is a learning experience in that you could definitely have had a good attitude and he was probably feeling pressure to make you happy. Take this as an opportunity to have a fulfilled life without him or any guy.

For those who insinuated that I was some kind of diva or entitled princess because I don’t like jumping from day time dates to Friday night dates before I’m ready, I just wanted the opportunity to defend myself before I leave this site.

First of all, I am NOT a diva or entitled princess AT ALL. If you met me you would be able to immediately tell that.

Secondly, where I live, men don’t often spend money on women. They don’t take them out to dinner, they don’t take them to the movies, they don’t spend money at all.

That is why I like to get to know them by doing things during the day time – things that are usually free like walks and looking at art, coffee, festivals etc. Because I want to get to know them before they try to have sex with me. I don’t want to develop feelings too early by having sex.

Usually, what I get from guys who want Friday or weeknight dates is ‘come to my place and watch a movie.’ They basically NEVER say ‘I’ll take you out to dinner’ or ‘We’ll go out to see a movie,’ etc. It’s always them being cheap and wanting me at their house at night on a couch.

So thanks for insinuating I’m demanding when all I want is to protect myself from being used and abused.

I think you’re all incredibly mean and judgemental and I wouldn’t take any of your advice based on that fact.

OP, you really shouldn’t allow outsiders to affect you. You asked a question and how you posed it will elicit different responses based on how they read and/or received it.

I don’t think your a princess as that never crossed my mind; however, I don’t believe he’s interested enough based on the time frame and times you’ve seen each other. He likes you but isn’t smitten with you and there’s a distinct difference between the two. I actually date how you date! I need to get to know a guy outside of the sheets before I can get a good feel about how he is in normal situations, like you would anyone else you meet, male or female. Not saying I haven’t done the reverse but I went into it honestly believing it was just going to an ONS (one-night stand) and that we would never cross paths again—ended up marrying one haha.

I’m sorry your experience here wasn’t helpful but I would like to ask you a question…have you been in a relationship before? If so, did it happen like this one or was it different?

I totally agree with Lane.

if a guy is really interested in you, he will try to see you as often as possible because there is always a chance for other men to swoop in.

Once a week, in my opinion, is not enough to tell whether he is only interested in you. I am quite sure he is seeing someone else as well, which is sadly very normal nowadays with all the dating apps going around.

Just carry on with your life, you seem to be accomplished woman. So the right guy will come. Just be patient!