ghosted…but not blocked. what’s up with that?

He bought a ticket to see you, but won’t respond or set up plans? How do you know he isn’t traveling for work and just showed you his airfare ticket for that? Who travels in the middle of the week? Where is he supposed to stay? Did you plan a day to meet? Can’t answer your question with so little detail except to say it sounds like he is blowing you off. Like most men who spend months chatting with women long distance.

Please don’t get your hopes up on a guy who lives States away… That you met online.

Heyy….. I agree, with you….. I too am facing a similar problem….. There was incredible chemistry I shared with a guy I met and it lasted for about a month….. He distanced himself from me and began ghosting….. Its been about three months now he doesn’t pick my calls or read my messages….. He went cold turkey on me….. Yet he’s not blocked me on watsapp….. But he doesn’t read my messages…. Its quite depressing actually….. But the thing is I went up to him a couple of months back and confronted him….. If he wanted to end the relationship…. If there was no scope or hope for anything….. I wanted a closure…. But he said he needed time and he would contact me….. I’m still waiting for him… Can’t get over him

LOL i have to roll my eyes for the people who say ”ignoring is easier” , ”why should he block you, he already ignores you” ,you people dont think far enough !! YES a person may ignore you , although NOT BLOCKING someone means you can STILL write msg to them , and even if they put your msg on MUTE , those messages will STILL POP UP at theyre whatsapp or instagram for example (even if they dont get a tone or so when you write them, but you WILL still see that the person who YOU currently ghost on wrote you when you go into your whatsapp acc). I have tested stuff like this with my friends phones already on both android and iphones. And even if he or she deleted you + muted you , it still will be seen on your whatsapp , sure it only shows a nr if you had already deleted someone out of your contacts , but if your profile pic is open ,for everyone to see, he or she who ghosted on you will still know who you are (if the profile pic shows your face). IN MY opinion it IS a better way to block someone instead of just ignoring (if I would get messages from someone i ghost on ,it would annoy me , especially if i knew that this person had feelings for me,cause those ppl will try to reach out to you ,since they dont know whats happening or whats wrong when u SUDDENLY out of nowhere when everything actually went good ghosts on you, also i would not want to see the msg either even if i chose to mute it, still pops up in my whatsapp as soon i would go in there). I dont like ppl msg me who i dont want to talk to , so I WOULD prefer to block, not just ignore. No garantie that they will still msg me every few days or so…(Now i would never go ghost on someone , to me thats a coward move , instead of just saying whats really wrong. Id prefer someone to tell me that they have no interest anymore OR whatever reason they have instead of suddenly just ignoring me. Yes you dont HAVE to tell someone why , but that still doesnt make it an ok move). Better block instead of ghosting only.

And one thing too: IF i would NOT block someone, then its ONLY bcs of those reasons: 1. I MAY want to sneack back to you or 2. Also i may want to sneak back to you (well i would want to try) maybe i would do it days maybe weeks maybe months later AND i would wait to SEE if you will chase me. Some men love to see if youd chase after them. A lot of people who ghost ,especially men are narcissts. I was ghosted before many times by men, theres only ONE man where it did hurt me a lot cause everything went very well and suddenly only a few hours later he unfollowed me on insta. etc and also didnt answer my msg either ( He only clicked on my insta msg , he saw it, but dont know if he read it , but probably he did read it , he just didnt answer it) , any OTHER men who ghosted me were men i had no feelings for ,so i didnt care i also didnt reach out to none of them. So, only 1 guy where i did care…

It really depends on WHO it is ,who ghosted you.

Usually or at least mainly ,if you had no real interest ,feelings or so you wont care if someone ghosts or blocks you, if you did care for that person and nothing even happend (nothing negative) then it will hurt you and leave u with questions. So

What happened with your situation? Did u hear from him? I’ve had a similar situation

I’m in a similar situation. I was dating a guy for 4 weeks and everything was going well and amazing. Then one day he told me how he felt life was getting to him and his work but then 24 hours later told me he needed time to himself. I respected that and I messaged a week later asking if he was ok but still got no response. It’s now coming up to 3 weeks since we last spoke and I’m stuck in limbo.

Do I stay loyal because I like him or do I move on? It’s only because he hasn’t blocked me that confuses me because from day one we both said if we didn’t like each other we’d block/ call it quits and he hasn’t done that?

What should I do??

I just keep on seeing my WhatsApp to see if he has blocked me or not. I am myself tired if not letting go yet I cannot do it. Please help

Met , dated 4 months, he told me happy 4th anniversary I said I was happy, he replied me2) he named me my babe, kisses hugs daily he finally opened up to me,, then Wednesday said moving from 590k house to apt it’s to much think it’s better, he replied yes it’s better ,, less issues,, we said have good day kiss hug, Friday came I said have Good Friday text with voice n face video, 39 hours later trxt at 11:02 pm sorry my babe things have been hectic so sorry chat soon,, Sunday 150pm I replied no worries my babe it happens then said I wad working doing ministries and worked late so sorry missed ur text,, then have a few pics in my church clothes with heels lipstick he likes that,, then off I went, Monday 5pm I texted he my Nate how are u? Is all ok? Let me know?? Now 1141 pm still no reply last spoke Wednesday! He asked did I see myself getting married etc,, I want to marry this guy! He told me we have a special deep next level deep connection and it’s ok nothing wrong with it we should embrace it,, we are chill childlike and loving to each otter truly a match made in heaven, I think I messed it up ,, he was Leadung then my ass asked him to dinner Friday said maybe soon? Looked like I wasn’t leaving back so I think I pushed him away or scared him ,, then he replied kiss no worries, then thinking was it my text reply of good u know ur not in mats need a flight back and ur thins are too broken when he waited 39hiyrs? Thinking he piesed?? Just being quiet?? Who knows, I’m fragile be nice to me,, he 36 I’m 40!! Thx

Hey! I appreciate this is a few years old, but I’m so sorry you had to go through this. I’ve just now had the same thing happen to me and it’s damn hurtful. Some of the other responses on here really are way too brutal beyond what’s necessary. You’re in the right and he def hasn’t done the right thing by you. He’s just making it unclear and messy. I hope you’ve been able to save your dignity and move on from this guy…. Frankly, he deserves to be iced by you – just rise above it all xoxo

Yes!!! This is so very true thank you for bringing balance to this thread 🙏☺️