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T from NY.
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Rob
This woman I’ve been speaking with long-distance for almost a year – and we’ve met in real life a few times too – has suddenly ghosted me, not replying to my texts and calls. Everything was going great just before this – we had amazing dates during Christmas, I gave her a present and card which she seemed to dearly love, we were trying to schedule video calls. And now boom, she just stopped speaking with me. She’s previously said she’s been busy, but she hasn’t replied in more than a week.
Why would anyone have the heart to do this?
Lala
Her husband found out?
Tallspicy
Because it was easier for her, and she was not invested. and maybe she is a crappy person. You were never her boyfriend, so while I get disappointment, please stay in that space. The reality is long distance does not work easily, so I am sorry you are pain.
Paige
Tallspicy is correct. She’s a crappy person and even if you had been her boyfriend, she still could have done this to you.
I’m sorry this has happened to you. As hard as it is to believe right now, you’ll find someone else whom you will love and who will love you back – and you can build a life together.
Good luck.
Signed,
A previously crappy girl
Alice
I once talked to this guy i knew from High School over social media, he lived in a different state (so long distance). We texted, called each other, daily and then eventually made plans to hangout and see each other.
I was going to be visiting him and staying at his place since I’d never been to the state he lived in before, we thought it would be enjoyable for him to show me around.
The day before my trip, he just ghosted! I had plane tickets and everything. I kinda laughed it off though and traded in my plane ticket for two tickets to Vegas for my a friend of me. Then a year later her showed up on social media again, trying to act like nothing happened, even commented on a photo of mine saying “look’n good”. It was so random!
People are strange…sorry you’re in pain. Book a trip to Vegas for a friend and you like I did haha it will help! :)
Alice
**two tickets to Vegas for my a friend & me. Then a year later he showed up on social media again, trying to act like nothing happened, even commented on a photo of mine saying “look’n good”.
sorry fixed it..typos.
mama
“Tallspicy” is right and he/she/they said it in the best way possible.
Why? Because they are weak and may have using you to get over the holiday hump. People do that.
Onward! Don’t let those jerks get you down!!!
T from NY
Ghosters are complete COWARDS. Seriously it’s a beautiful thing these days when men or women have backbone, decorum and dignity. They are not the norm unfortunately. Frightening to think how the next generation will be…
I’m also sorry you’re hurting. It shall pass. Tend to you. And good riddance to someone unable to speak their truth so decide to be weak and cruel and have no honor.
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