Ghosting on tinder?

And the most important thing. Why would you have sex with a stranger WITHOUT A CONDOM? Not that I know much about the hook up culture, but I’d say obviously, its first rule is be on the pill and always use condoms.

Thanks for your feedback! I can see your point of view, but I actually split the bill with him for food and paid for my Uber’s. I thought the least he could do is split a plan b with me, especially since he knew I wasn’t using birth control. It was partially my fault too for allowing him to have sex with me without protection though.

“Do you think he just wanted to hit it and quit it and act like he was interested when in actuality he wasn’t?”

This is what you need to learn if you’re going to do hook ups: If you’re both looking for something casual, he doesn’t really have to “act interested”. You’re both there to hook up. He’s not trying to court you or date you, or win you over. This is the nature of hook up culture. You can’t have expectations that a guy will call you or want to see you again after you have sex. It’s just sex. I agree with the comment earlier that this guy sounds not terribly respectful, or maybe inexperienced with hook ups; he should have at least sent you the money. But it’s not uncommon for hook ups to vanish after sex.

And as other posters have said, ALWAYS use condoms with hook ups! He could be hooking up with any number of women. He could have an STD, or if (God forbid) you get pregnant from a hook up, that would be a disaster.

Who knows why he’s vanished– as Shoshannah said, maybe he got freaked out, or maybe he didn’t want to chip in for the Plan B. Maybe he had no intention of seeing you more than once and having sex. Maybe he hasn’t unmatched from you because he’s hoping to pop up again in a few weeks/months and have sex again.

You both sound very young (he lives with his mom, for example) and hopefully this is a lesson for you. If you’re going to hook up with guys and have casual sex, you need to use protection always; and you can’t really expect much from them beyond sex. Like Kirstie said, you have to go into it with no expectations. Don’t expect to be called, texted, take out again, etc. That’s not how hook ups work.

I recommend you stop seeing *boys* and start dating men who can at least afford to court you properly if that’s what your looking for because you are lying to yourself and a man if you tell the you can do *casual* but are not only prepared (protected) but wondering why he stops talking to you.

Casual means: No Strings Attached Sex. One who is not interested in forming any other type of connection other than the goal of sex which could be once, or several times, if both parties are fully capable of engaging in it with zero expectations (one or both can end it at any time for any reason). A man (or this case boy) will usually ‘pop back in’ (make contact) only when he’s horny and wants another round of sex.

Hookup: Also known as a “one night stand.” A one-time romp in the hay that in most cases never results in having sex again with that person. Those who engage in this are ‘hooking up’ with multiple people because all they are wanting is *easy sex* (hit and quit), and nothing more. You are just one of many VG’s he’s sticking his thingy in, and that’s all he’s looking for, a supply of VG’s to stick his thingy in.

You are not cut out for casual hookups (NSA sex). Your hormones (look up “Love hormones”) are triggered when you have sex and it makes you want to create and develop an “attachment” to the man. Men don’t get a rush of these hormones the way women do, in fact, there’s is depleted before they get off/ejaculate, so they don’t get attached through sex.

You need to stop playing this game as you don’t have the right mindset, which requires being fully protected (prepared for it); unemotional (don’t care if you ever hear or see him again); and non hormonal (don’t get attached) when you engage in sex.

I don’t think you realize how dangerous this is to your health and safety. Do you want STD’s?
An STD includes Herpes, HIV, chlamydia, gonorrhea, or the many other out in the sexual market?

Do you want an unplanned pregnancy?

I ask this because you are not looking at the FULL PICTURE as to all the risks ‘casual hookups’ are known for. He did not ‘ghost you’ as those who engage in these casual activities KNOW and EXPECT they will probably never hear from or be called back for more sex; or if they are, it will only be for a quick hookup. You are too easy (sexually), and too hard (personally), to engage in this activity at the same time lol. I wouldn’t expect too many ‘call backs’ if you continue to engage in casual hookups the way you do.

Yes, it can not be understated enough. If he is sleeping with you casually, he is sleeping with others casually who are also sleeping with others casually. That is a lot of math.

A pregnancy is something you can choose to take action on. You can go get Plan B or what not. A case of herpes or AIDS is not something you can treat. You must ask men to use protection. Have your own. If you are not able to ask a guy to use a condom or if you can’t deal with buying them, do not seek out casual sex.

All you learned from this is if you set up a one night stand, bring your own condoms. He would be inviting you back next time his mommy isn’t home if it were easier.

You want to give away free sex with a stranger bring a case of condoms. Also you could offer to pay him for sex. Maybe there is a new video game he would like.

Going to jump on the STD bandwagon. The guy may seem clean and nice on the surface, but as someone mentioned earlier, if he’s having casual sex with a few people, and then those people are having casual sex with other people, the exposure is exponential.

And also just think about a few other consequences of having an STD that you might not even realize, such as having to explain to each sexual partner you have going forward that you have an STD (if you’re a decent human being). That’s a pretty terrible conversation to have. And also, some STD’s are associated with infertility later in life. You sound rather young, so if you see yourself having a family in the future, it’s something to take very seriously.