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Gabby
It’s been almost 3 month that me and my ex have been broken up. He reached out saying he still loves me and misses me and since we both feel the same we thought maybe we could try talking to each other again and see where it goes. He said he wants to take it slow but I don’t see the whole point of that if we both feel the same? I guess it bothers me that we don’t talk for a few days and we haven’t been able to meet up, we’ve kinda argued about it. But has anyone else been through this? I don’t want to ruin our chances of getting back together or at least figuring out if we still stand a chance. Am I wrong, is he wrong? Any advice?
Vera
Depends ..
How long were you together ?
Why did you break up?
Did you break up amicably ?
Were you both genuine throughout the relationship and respectful during breakup?
Was there cheating involved ? Lying ?
are there fundamental incompatibilities ?
It really all depends .Vera
Oh wait , missed something there.
He wants to “see where it goes “? Is this his idea or yours or both? Because if he just wants to see where it goes and you’re thinking (likely rightfully so) that you should be able to talk it out and you’re either an item or you’re not, he may not want it badly enough . Maybe fishing for attention. Maybe bored and there’s nobody else . I don’t want to jump to conclusions since we need more information but seeing where things go with someone you’ve dated in the past is not a recipe for a happy life as a couple
Gabby
Vera, no cheating at all we ended things because we were arguing a lot, it wasn’t an amicable break up.. One day we just argued dropped it and didn’t talk to each other. We dated for a year, and I was already moving on I didn’t think he’d reach out. But I guess we both feel like we could’ve done more. I’m don’t want him back badly but I guess I just wanted to talk and see him to see how I really feel. That was our agreement however I don’t see the point in taking things super slow, I just want to know if I should move on for good or see if our relationship is still worth fighting for. But I don’t want to scare him or end up pushing him away
Khadija
I think what you are telling us is what you need to tell him.
You two need to meet up and talk things out.If you can’t find ways to work on your past issues you will be doomed to break up again.
Lots of people get back together because they miss each other but, when things are the same the novelty wears off quickly.
You both have to be committed to making it work this time.
Vera
Yeah, what Khadija said .
Open and honest communication is key. You both need to be on the same page or at least understand where the other person is coming from otherwise there is no point .
Also not sure where you live but it’s festive season now and people are more likely to romanticize their lives or feel extra lonely during the holiday season, resulting in feelings of nostalgia etc. -
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