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Lucy
Hi all!
I don’t need advice or anything, I just wanted to say that I didn’t realise I was strong enough, but I’ve managed to go 7 days no contact with my ex after being, erm, quite clingy (despite him saying I wasn’t…)!
Somehow, i’m quite proud and I feel a lot better about myself and have already started making improvements.
I wouldn’t have done it if it wasn’t for this place, so thank you :)
Lucy
Good for you. Now can you use another handle? ‘Lucy’ is already taken..
Hannah
We can tell which Lucy is which because of the photo.
Well done Lucy with a photo! Keep it up. It will get easier with time.
What if I told you…my name is Lucy too
Not the first time I’ve seen someone complain about their (relatively common…) name being ‘stolen’. I was wondering, do you go around in real life asking people who coincidentally share a first name with you to change their names too? (newsflash: some people on here actually use their real names, some people don’t spend half of there time on here and thus can’t possibly know which names have been taken and which not).
And before anyone says there’s been a problem on here before: here’s a H U G E difference between the above and impersonating someone else. And then there’s the pic too of course.Lucy
Umm.. You obviously spend enough time on here to know I use that handle and that I am on here a lot…color me stupid. Carry on Lucy with a pic…lol xxx
What if I told you…my name is Lucy too
You didn’t answer my question…
And to be brutally honest honey, the first time I ever noticed you was when Jason started posting, so as far as I’m concerned you’re new to the forum.
Lucy
Well keep up the good work on your no contact Hun. Xxxx
redcurleysue
It is only strong people who can take their life into their hands and make decisions that are in their own best interests.
I commend you.
Lucy number one ;) I joke, honest!
I’ve posted a few times over the past two years, but either way… I’m not surprised there’s more people with the same name around here!
But either way, thanks all :)
Megan
I’m at 11 days no contact. I almost cracked last night, although I had been breezing along. Nc is good for me as I prob will never hear from him again.
How long were you two dating Lucy? And congrats!
Lucy
Well done! :D
It was more how long it was off than on I’m afraid! I’m genuinely doing this to attempt to get over him for once and all :)
12 days tonight and still going strong! :)
Thanks all again :)
Lucy
I used far too many emoticons inadvertently then… Sorry!
Sun
Keep it up!!!
Leah
Great job! I made it to 45 days (after more than 10 years relationship). its hard but must say the forum has helped a lot….can’t say it gets easier but what choice does one have right?
lucy here
my names lucy too im the original
Who cares who has the same name as me. Those comments are getting childish now…
Thanks all! :)
And exactly Leah! :(
Jennifer
Leah did he ever try to contact you during the 45 days?
Anne
Congrats! 7 days NC is a great start.
Khadija
Good for you!
Continue to seek support whenever.
I’ve done it and found there are times when it is easy and times when it can be challenging.Rae
I’m in the NC gang also and oh my it’s hard lol but it can be done!
Leah
@Jennifer: Yes hun, after 8 days he called twice in one day. I did not pick up the first time as i did not want to seen to eager and wanted to be able to control myself. he called again after 2 or 3 hours and i picked up (more prepared). I was normal (he called to tell me i had some mail that came to his place) and after 1 minute or so said sorry at work can we talk later and he was very nice and a bit nervous tbh and said yes call me at work. which i did not (usually i am looking for ANY reason to just call or see him). I sent him a text that its not urgent with the letters, he can tell me when to pick them up or he can drop them in my mailbox. And have not heard back since. The NC for me (just my opinion and view) is to gather my feelings and work on my issues but also to find out if he will or would keep in touch if i didnt’t. and i am not 15 years old, so i don’t want to hide and not answer if he calls me. that for me (again just in my opinion) seems a bit childish unless i really don’t want anything to do with him. but since i do still have feelings, and want to genuinely change i am going to act my age for once :-)
But i am not doing the same mistakes as always. for example its his birthday this week and for the first time in over 10 years i am not going to congratulate him as i dont want him to think i am looking for an excuse to contact him. this time if, and yes realized its if, he contacts me, i am not going to be happy just because he contacted me. i will only be hopeful if he tells me he wants relationship. Him calling about mail was of course making me happy that day but now i realize that i must not give myself false hope. of course he can call about mail or what not. but if he wants to see me, it must be to see ME. not because of some stupid mail. that he can put in my mail box. basically this time i need to be clear with myself about what i want and if he steps up GREAT and if not then i know i guess….but trust me i miss him like crazy but this forum has taught me soooo much!!! so do take the advice from the ladies/men here. they are truly good people on here :-) (sorry for the long response).A.
Good job girl! Make sure you’re keeping busy with friends, family, sports, whatever is positive and will keep you busy so you don’t sit around and think about your ex.
Lucy
Thanks! I’ve just gone over 16 days now, I feel so much better in myself and I’m far more productive now that I’m not dwelling over him :)
He’s not tried to contact me yet, but I’m not expecting him to anyway!
Rae
Hey everyone,
You guys are all doing so well! When I see 45 days NC that feels like forever away for me and right now I don’t see how I’d actually go that long but I’ll stay positive! I’m only in the early stages right now
Lucy
How many days in are you Rae?
I keep telling myself it’ll be worth it in the long run. I’ve given in at 21 days in the past because he’d contacted me… So I’ve got to get to at least 30 this time :)
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