got drunk and blacked out- my guy won't talk to me

In private…and he says not good.

So I can only speculate what happened when we exited the event and the drive home. I do recall one instance and I was actually very loving and saying like,”honew do you think of me ,I mean like a lot, I think of you all the time” and we were arm in arm and he said yes he thinks of me. I can only assume I rambled on. Maybe part of the problem that I spill my guts out,don’t know.

OK sweetie, you have to understand that being around a drunk person that passes out is really, really not fun. I’ve been around ladies and men that have that problem and I do not want to hang out with them ever. In private is annoying but in public is embarrassing. The best you can do now is either quit drinking or as you say don’t go past two drinks. Give him time and see what happens, do apologize for whatever happened when you were drunk and say you will not drink around him anymore, might work.

Say sorry and tell him you have decided you have to stop at two glasses or give up. I don’t think you understand you are binge drinking and your body is becoming more sensitive to alcohol because of this. You can swallow your own vomit while passed out cold and next morning he may be waking a dead body – it’s not recommended. Be proud of knowing you have a small problem and stop it right now – good luck, it easy when the problem is small. It will be hard for a little while but you will live a long, happy life and have no regrets from any problems caused by behaviour you can’t remember. That’s very scary – be safe and happy you have a man that loves you so much

Thanks for your replies. I can say I’m sorry and he loves me but his lack of not talking and we need to chat makes me certain he is leaving me and I’m not sure if I can change his mind. He has said ithat was his fear I’d do in public and he would not tolerate it. So this is where saying sorry and forgive this time and won’t do it again may not be enough.

Your behavior indicates you do not understand consequences.

I understand consequences. I trusted himand took advantage of that comfort. Also I didn’t realize I was like I was.

I really hope he stays with you, but that is somewhat irrelevant. The drinking is the issue.

I sent a letter via email stating my intentions. I have said sorry via text even though I don’t know what I said or did.

You need to stop drinking.

Only stick to one or two drinks and drink lots of water when you do drink.

If he cares about you he will let it go and move on..

My boyfriend has only blacked out twice. I’m not going to leave him for it but it is annoying and hard work. I’m sure if he had constant black outs i wouldn’t like it or appreciate it at all.

I blacked out once with my boyfriend and I have never passed three drinks again.

Nothing bad happened but he clearly stated he didn’t like it and wouldn’t want to see it again.

Point is no one likes it. Be responsible about your drinking.

You’ve already sent an apology text and email. That is enough. STOP apologizing. Apologizing to a guy over and over does more harm than good; you are making him relive what happened every time you bring it up instead of giving him his space to get over it.

When you meet, you need to let him be the one to bring this up, if it’s something he wants to talk about. Unfortunately, you have crossed a line since he already was clear about his boundaries with the drinking. If there are consequences that become of that, so be it. That is what happens when you make poor choices in life.

Hopefully this is a wake up call for you and a learning lesson. There is a difference between having fun and being irresponsible. There is such a thing as drinking without getting black out drunk. It seems you haven’t mastered that, so I advise you to abstain from drinking all together.

I sincerely hope your relationship is not jeopardized because of this. Hopefully he will be understanding and you will be able to move past it. The best way to show your sorry is not by apologizing, but instead by NEVER repeating this behavior again. Your words will mean nothing to him; your actions will. Good luck.

You have a child? All thr more reason to get sober. Men do look to see if you cam nurture. The reality is someone who drinks this much will be suspect on that attribute….