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tete.
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talllady
How long have you been dating?
Sassperilla
First thing that will help you – if you can’t stop drinking completely then stop drinking wine. Honestly it’s loony juice. Find a drink – gin and tonic for example – that you can tolerate without blackouts!
Like someone else has said I’ve been out with people before who get blacked out, rude, agressive, unreasonable, sick, legless etc on drink and I make a point of avoiding going out wit them ever again. So I don’t blame this guy.
Leave him be and work on your alcohol problems before you start dating again.
tete
No more kids nor him he has none. Not in our future.
tete
We have been going out 7 months. I do feel I need to see him and have a resolve. We are supposed to meet today but I’m waiting for him to contact me. I just got home from work. I told him afternoon I’d be home. Just wondering if I should tell him I’m home or let him make the first move again first.
Rose
Blacking out when with a boyfriend is one thing but doing it being a mother is worse, maybe you didn’t do it in front of your kid but you’re his example, you have a responsibility and passing out drunk when a little man depends on you is never a good idea, maybe the guy is questioning your ability as a mother too. I would recommend you to not drink anymore.
Rose
Let’s say your son gets sick and you are passed out drunk, who’s going to make desicions about his health?
Raven
Agreed… sounds like you need to hit the wagon…
tallady
7 months and more than one black out event? Please get some help. Let us know what happens..
joan
It’s time to get serious and put your priorities right here, call AA and/or a good hypnotist – your son’s very life could be at risk. Your priorities are your health, finances, being an alert, good, happy mother, your son and then your boyfriend. You have dated long enough that he would be considering getting serious or wanting marriage by now – you run the risk of losing everything that matters to you. Act now and stamp the drinking out. People that can get black out drunk are rarely going to be able to return to moderate drinking. It gets harder every time to stop so act immediately – it will also impress your boyfriend far more than reading what you’re going to do. Just do it – it’s a huge problem and the first step starts with admitting you are a binge drinker. Binge drinking can lead to death far more quickly than normal alcoholism so act fast. Who will raise your child? Have you written a will?
tete
Yes I will seek help. As for the boyfriend…he left me.
joan
ohhh that’s so awful :((( – expected but awful. I hope you get your life all in order, start living for you and your little boy and if you ignore your guy for about 4 – 6 weeks, be totally invisible, then try sending a text just to say thanks for being a fantastic guy – share a sweet memory, you may win him back.Try the text your ex back program form Michael Fiore – sign up for help with the drink straight away and ask your doc about free psychology sessions – it’s so painful losing a love but in the long term you will be thankful he set you on the sober path – good luck :)
tallady
Tete, this is what rock bottom looks like. Please get some help, go to aa. Hugs! Start healing and forgiving….
Amber
Hi Tete, this is your warning call hon.
Please please wake up and stop now. To have blackouts is the alcoholic route and many ladies here have given you good advice. Please get support to totally stop now before you do start drinking daily.
Good luckLeelee
Can you tell me what happened with him???
Raven
This post is 2+ years old!
tete
yeah, after we met up on friday he told me he was really disappointed in my behavior and needed space. i said i understood and stopped apologizing, since i had enough. we sat and talked about some other things like work and school and how his job was going but then he said he needed to take a break. i said i understood. but he said not forever he just needed to of course she isn’t coming back to this thread it’s 2017 stop reading this i’m not the OP start ur own thread
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