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Seraphina
I’ve been seeing this guy over a month now and everytime we go out its in a group setting. He’s asked me out on one on one dates before but something happens and he cancels. This past time we made an agreement to see each other and go on a one on one date and he brings his friend again. I confronted him about it and he told me he’d tell him to leave. I felt bad so I told him its ok he could come. I’ve never been in a situation like this before and I just don’t get it! Why does every date end up in a group setting? I already asked him if he had a girlfriend or wife and he said no. His friend ended up leaving and gave us time to ourselves but I still find it strange that he’s always there at the beginning.
Sherri
I would actually bring it up to him in a non confrontational way. Like, I would like to spend some alone time with you as that would help me bond with you. When you bring your friends to our dates, it doesn’t really help me bond. Is there a reason you prefer to meet me in a group setting or am I overthinking this? And then let him respond. Have this conversation over the phone or face time and not via text.
Seraphina
I have.. He smooth talked his way through it and said oh I didn’t think it was a big deal. I’ll tell him to leave, then I felt bad for the guy and said it was fine. Then he told me next week I’ll come see you and it’ll be just you and I. Everytime we plan a one on one date he either cancels it or his friend comes. Hes attached by the hip to this guy. It’s also his roommate/business partner.
Harley
too weird for me !
Sherri
Is he by any chance bi??? Just a thought …..
My ex was joined at the hip to his sister and his umbilical cord with his mom was never cut. Since then I don’t do guys who don’t know boundaries. This guy seems a bit immature. How old is he?
Seraphina
He could be. I’m not sure. I have suspected it and asked him in the past if he was gay or bi and he said no. He’s 31 and has two kids. He’s even been married before.
Sherri
I would say give him one more chance. You have already communicated with him and he should WANT TO WANT to spend alone time with you. If he comes again with his friend, dump him. It could be they are a couple and his friend is jealous and he is bringing him along to assure him or something.
Having been married or having kids is no indicator that a guy is not bi or gay. He could be deep in the closet.
Stefanie
If it’s his roommate and biz partner, he’s having a bromance. Don’t worry, he’s straight. It’s his permanent wing man and he doesn’t know when enough is enough… or else he’s not that interested in you as a potential GF. One or the other. You will find out soon enough.
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