Guy asking for money?

I an seeing a guy for about 3 months now, he lost his wallet a couple of weeks ago and he was headed to NY so I lent him $500. then gave him another $100 since he has not received his cards yet. Which was fine, but its on the 3rd week now and he has not initiated to pay me back.

Saying that his bank screwed up and sent his atm to his old address. Giving him the benefit of doubt. but when he asked for gas money since he ‘forgot’ his wallet again, i’m starting to have doubts. Help!

You’re starting to have doubts?! Why couldn’t he have gone to friends or family when his wallet was lost? And how long does it take for cards to be reissued? Normally 7 days but 10 max. You can actually get an emergency card reissued right there while you stand in the bank. I’ve done it before.

I have been talking to this guy for a week he’s been asking me for money and he wants my information for my bank account and he wants an Amazon gift card he’s 40 old what should I do

@Frank

Same thing is happening to me. I have been talking to a guy for two months now. I still have not met him because he is out of the country for business. He has asked for an Amazon gift card. And now asking for my bank details so he can deposit money into my account so I can buy him the Amazon gift card. I keep telling him no way and that I need to meet him fisrt and get to know him like normal relationship.

There was absolutely nothing funny about this thread when it was first created nor is it amusing now.

Thus is pathetic and makes me angry.

First NEVER give money to a stranger unless it’s a charitable donation (to a registered licensed charitable organization) and you are giving discretionary funds you don’t need and never expect back.

Second, never give funds to obtain anyone’s affection (which is what the losers in this example are trying to take advantage of). You do NOT buy real love or friendship. People who are targeted in this way are done so by low-life’s trying to capitalize on those who are lonely, vulnerable, and have weak boundaries. It’s despicable.

Third/, asking for bank acct info so someone can “deposit” funds in your account is a longtime well known scam. One of the oldest tricks in the book. They get your bank info and TAKE all your money. are you giving them the keys to your house, your car and your life while you are at it??

I’m being intentionally harsh to make my point. Wake up.

Smarten up people. You can’t be a target and taken advantage of if you don’t allow it! If someone you don’t know (or barely know) can’t get their finances in order, you bailing them out only enables continued bad habits with money, because they have no incentive to change anything and be more responsible.

Can’t pay his phone bill? Oh well, no phone. It isn’t life and death. And I NEVER take money from men. So the nonsense about men being “owed” is ridiculous!!!

Dude, If you are dumb enough to give your money away to someone who is only using you, that’s your poor decisions at work. No one else’s.

You want to see how bad an idea this is? Read the “woman to woman thread here.

I am telling everyone this as someone who works as a financial professional, so take this free advice or don’t, but I can’t advise strongly enough not to loan money to people.

Are you a bank? I doubt it.

If this man has your sisters SS#, she has bigger problems than the financial loss she’s already incurred.

He can steal her identity, open accounts in her name and other nefarious stuff.

Has she gone to the police? A police report must be filed and she needs to freeze her credit and seek advice from a professional. This is going to haunt her for years!

I never amazes me the lengths people will go to and the stories they will believe, no matter how ridiculous. Hope she smartens up real quick.

End this relationship. Do not lend any boyfriend or any guy you’re seeing money this is a huge red flag. Your intuition is saying this is wrong which is why you asked the question on this forum do not pay his phone bill and get out of the relationship this is a test to see if he can control you and you’ll never see that money again

Bee,
He’s a con & fake…
Good on You for not falling for this scam!

I’ve been dating this guy for several months now,he stays with his parents and I’m mostly always responsible for fueling the generator when there is no light..Lol..(sorry its not funny)..he asks me for money most times..maybe when he wants to get
food or anything..he doesn’t feel ashamed to ask me for money buh he’s caring,he’s always telling me he loves me,he makes sure he satisfies me when it comes to sex and he acts like he’s always emotional.I’m confused I don’t know if he loves me cos I feel bad when I give him money even tho I have the money…what do I do?

Attention Ladies!
Do Not Give or Lend Guys Money Ever…
Love, Auntie Raven

we are responding to Tessy who posted today about paying the bills for her boyfriend and his parents…

I posted a few years ago too. But I just came back to read follow up posts because I’m dense and need a refresher course once in a while. It’s helpful to read lots of opinions. I haven’t talked to my guy in question since my post over 2 years ago. But unfortunately I still think about him every day. I guess I did (do) love him.