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Edwin.
Miss_Aspiring
I’m not really asking for advice here… the guy already ended it with me, there were no strong feelings on either side, no harm done. But on our fourth date, I was shocked. We were at his place, making out, and I playfully suggested that I wanted to give him a BJ. His response was: “You can if you want, but I don’t get off on it.” I was amazed. Have any of you ever encountered a guy who doesn’t like receiving oral? Is that a thing? Still having trouble believing it…
SunnyMontana
I was with a guy who seemed to have some type of ED and -every- time I went down on him he went limp. He was on the smaller side (penis-wise), was extremely overweight and not confident in his looks. I just always thought these were the reasons… just overall being self-conscious. I love giving them, so this was SO disappointing for me.
I’m curious what others have to say.
Rose
I haven’t found any guy who doesn’t like bjs but I know women that don’t enjoy oral sex on them. They say they don’t feel comfortable.
Maybe he’s too traditional?
BelliniGirl
What!!! I am shocked! Are you serious? This is the first time I am hearing that!
Hannah
Like rose said, maybe he doesn’t feel comfortable. Some people can’t relax receiving and not giving although I’ve only heard of women like that, not men.
Or maybe he’s encountered really bad technique and it put him off!
It is unusual though!
Miss_Aspiring
SunnyMontana – I can understand why the guy you describe would have trouble with it. Sounds like he has a lot of self-esteem issues.
The guy I was with was physically healthy, no problem in the size department, and no problem getting hard either. He just didn’t enjoy getting BJs. Might I add, he insisted on going down on me… which I don’t particularly enjoy, haha. Receiving oral doesn’t do anything for me
(yes, that is a lot more common for women than men). So I guess we’re just the worst match for each other! We both want to give but not receive :)
Anne
I encountered this once… I believe in this case he had been sexually abused. The other reason I’ve heard is because a man can’t give up control to someone else enough to enjoy it.
Lady T
My bf told me the same in the beginning but he’s since changed his mind. My ex didn’t like them at all, but he probably would’ve preferred one from a man.
Vivienne
My ex was this way. He said that they felt “okay” but did not really get him excited.
L
Why assume that everyone has to like the same things when it comes to sex?
Everyone is different and what some people find pleasurable others may not…!
My GF told me her ex didn’t like BJ’s either. I guess that’s the fun of experiencing different things with different people. ;-)
Miss_Aspiring
LadyT – LOL! Good thing you’re not with that ex anymore.
Lady T
Amen to that, Miss_Aspiring! xo
Edwin
Bj’s love them, however there is control issues as to ejaculations. To be over stimulated in foreplay making vaginal sex more difficult to regain control in timing the climax. There is also the desire to pleasure your partner. The acts of love making should be an event of enjoyment, and understanding of expectations be clear. Sex is not a performance, its the gift of giving unselfishly to one another.
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