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Elle
Hi. I have been friends with this guy for 2 years now, invited him to my birthday getaway in London in Oct 2015 and he came along with our other work friends. We got pretty close, slept in the same room with separate beds of course, he took selfies of us on his phone at the London Eye, sharing his playlists on Spotify to my phone, opened up about his ex, following my path wherever we go even on the escalators, and sat next to each other on the way home, then asked for my number finally! Then we text quite regularly after that with just random things, and then December comes, he came to the work xmas party (had a missed call from him), we didnt really interact much as I was really shy and everyone there knows us both. He met up with me on New Year’s Eve for a drink after his work and just talked. I never thought he would meet up with me alone to be quite honest, but he did. Then, he told me he was seeing someone. So, I confronted him bout it and he said he felt like he was really in a good place and time to be seeing someone, so I just said “Okay”, then I deleted him from all Social Media Sites from then on. He has never contacted me for like 3 months after the day he told me he was seeing someone. Then, it started again 2 weeks ago, we exchanged sms everyday since April 29 and now he is just telling me everything he does basically everyday, asks me how I am or how’s my weekend and stuff, never ends the text with a goodnight and just continue the next day until it became a cycle every night. But he never asked me out. Although, I asked if he would like to come to my bbq party in June, to which he said YES DEFINITELY & LOOKING FORWARD TO IT. He knew and met my friends back in October 2015 and we are really close. I am still confused until now of how he interacts with me, like one minute I am pretty convinced that he likes me too but on the other hand I am still in doubt if he does. I dont know what to do. I need your help deciphering what this really means..
Stefanie
There is nothing to decipher. He’s seeing someone, he’s treating you like a friend. No interest in you romantically. Guys don’t do mixed messages, generally speaking. He’s been quite clear with you it just wasn’t what you wanted to hear. Sorry sweetie.
Elle
He isn’t seeing that girl now. I forgot to add it on there.
Jules
Sounds like you have a really good guy friend, emphasis on friend. This guy isn’t interested in more.
He’s probably a little dense in not realizing you’ve liked him this whole time.
A guy who wants to date you:
-Doesn’t talk about other girls he’s dated/dating to you
-Asks you out on dates that are clearly dates
-Tries something physical with youIt’s been two years, if he was romantically interested in you he would’ve done something about 23 months ago.
If you’re not okay with remaining just friends then dial it back on the communication.
Elle
When I asked how he and the girl he is seeing were, he never replied. So I didn’t ask again, maybe it didnt work and he doesnt wanna talk about it. He sends me photos of him, what he is doing or eating recently.
A.
He may like you, but not enough to make a move. Forget him and move on.
Elle
Okay so physical, in what sense? Sex or just generally being touchy? He has been trying to engage me in an intimate convo last week but I blew him up! As for touchy, he has always been trying to find ways to touch my hands, arms, etc. In those 2 years we have known each other, he wasn’t at work full time as he was still in college finishing his degree. So, I only ever see him on school holidays. He had a gf then. But when I wrote that he has opened up to me about his ex, it’s because I asked him on the spot and he has broken up with his ex a long time now. He also opens up personal things. He was seeing this new girl in December and again he wouldn’t have told me if I didnt ask him. He has never been in contact with me while he was seeing her and now he is texting me everyday, and doesnt mention any girls at all. I probably sound desperate here but he isn’t usually the type to open up to anyone or talk to anyone with anything, so his sister would say to me. I am a little confused.
Anne
I agree that it sounds like you two are buddies.
I think that you should avoid becoming emotionally invested in this guy.
If the only way that you can move on for good is to ask him if he is interested in you, then do it. That way you will have your answer and not allow another 2 years to pass trying to decipher him. Hope that helps!
Max
Just simply ask him what are you two. Period. But the fact that you are actually asking him means he just sees you as a friend.
Elle
Thanks guys! I am really tempted to tell him how I feel but I am also hesitant. But thank you for all the comments, really appreciate it!
Elle
Okay, so now I am really starting to feel like there is something here. We are just friends but why does he text me everyday though? I have tons of friends and none of them text me everyday! I guess what I am trying to figure out is why would he make an effort to text me if he just sees me as a friend? I mean, he has best friends and other close friends, but why would he make time to send me a message? He hasn’t asked me out on a date yet but could this be that he is trying to get to know more now that he finally has a chance? This is really confusing.
Khadija
I’m sorry but its been two years.
He has not made a move, I’d let this go.
It sounds like you want to find a reason to tell him how you really feel.
By all means if you feel the burning need to do so but, don’t expect his feelings to be the same.
All this time you are spending finding clues or hints. That time could have been spent on someone who makes it clear he wants to be with you.Turquiose
2 years is a long time. If he liked you, he would have asked you out. If a guy likes you, he will never talk about other girls in front of you. Sorry to say, he has friend zoned you.
Elle
He hasn’t mentioned any girl’s name at all since we got back in touch. I’m not really looking for someone to be with. I am just wondering why he would spend so much time texting me everyday. But thanks for all your replies.
Anne
“If a guy likes you, he will never talk about other girls in front of you.”
Hmmm, they can if they are trying to make themselves look more desirable. Like this “friend” kept telling me about the women who had recently made passes at him, but he had turned them down. I think the trick was that when he finally revealed his feelings for me I was supposed to feel “honoured/special” because he had turned down all those women but “chosen” me. Didn’t really work though. I found it annoying!“I am just wondering why he would spend so much time texting me everyday”
Just ask him already :) You seem really sweet so just be playful about it and ask him so you can move forward/on.
Hope it goes well!
Jade
In my opinion, if a guy likes you, he will make his feelings known and you wouldn’t have to wonder. Especially since he sounds totally comfortable with opening up to you.
Twinkle
I agree with Jade, if he also liked you, he’d find ways to be around you more and not just texting daily. When you are on dates he’s paying for everything he takes care of you, he wants you to know it’s not just friends…One of my best friends is a guy who I have no romantic feelings for but our conversations are different than how I talk to the guy I am dating. The feelings are different when he texts me vs the texts i receive a lot from my guy friend.
I text my guy friend a lot and he texts me a lot…nothing to do with feelings.
Phillygirl
If he’s never asked you out, he isn’t interested. I have lots of male friends, some of them would text me everyday if I left them, doesn’t mean a thing.
He probably just likes the attention you give him, I wouldn’t be surprised if he already picked up on the fact you are interested in him. Guys aren’t always clueless.
Men will sometimes keep a woman around they don’t want to date, just for the ego stroke she provides. Or, he could just be bored and have lots of time on his hand to reach out to you.
Either way, I don’t think it means anything, because no man takes this long to ask out a girl he really likes. You are wasting your time putting this much focus on a guy who isn’t giving you anything.
If you have any doubts, tell him how you feel about him. I would bet he stammers and tells you are a great girl and he really likes you…just not “that” way…
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