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Clara
I recently posted about the man I’ve been seeing and his month long trip to Europe. I was worried that he had lost interest since he hadn’t messaged me for a week after returning from his trip, but it turns out he did end up messaging me last Thursday (6/30) and we talked for a bit. He told me he got super sick at the end of his trip and had tested positive for covid. He sent me a picture of his positive text with a sad face and told me he was coughing pretty bad. I told him to feel better and that I would like to see him again when he’s recovered. He said he would like that as well and said we would do something fun when he got better. I said yes, definitely, and it has now been almost a week and I haven’t heard from him. I keep thinking that he has perhaps lost interest, but it’s possible that he is waiting to get better before reaching out. I’m thinking of texting to say hi but I also think the ball is in his court and he if he wants to see me he’ll ask me out. Any thoughts on what to do or how to proceed?
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Do not text. Let him reach out when he’s feeling better.
Liz Lemon
I remember your other post. I agree with what’s been said, just sit back and let him reach out. Don’t contact him– you already told him that you’d like to see him so the ball is in his court now. If he’s interested, he’ll follow up. Covid is very draining & it may take him awhile before he’s feeling better.
mama
It’s hard to sit on your hands and do nothing, but maybe that would be good for your mindset. He’s already followed through on contacting you and staying in touch. Sure, it’s not as frequently or on the same timeline as you’d like, but he’s still contacting you roughly when he said he would. So give him a chance to follow through again. :)
tammy
when your friends are sick, we do message to inquire about their health. but you have doubts about his interest levels and he has told you he will connect when hes better. so let him contact you and you will know for sure that he is interested in getting to know you better. but u shouldn’t necessarily wait for him. go on with your dating life. make plans and meet others.
Raven
I differ from the other responders…
Covid can still make you VERY sick & people are still dying from it!
I would message a simple, ‘How are you feeling?’
Maddie
I agree with Raven. He’s not going to be able to safely make plans with you until he tests negative, and it sounds like it’s just going on ten days? Which is still the safe quarantine period. I know you have some doubts about his interest, but a simple ‘how are you feeling?’ text with no agenda (and not expecting any particular response) is considerate without pursuing him. Let him do all the heavy lifting for making plans, though. It’s tough when traveling and illness interrupts the natural flow of things when you have just started seeing someone new, but you should have all the answers you need soon.
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