Guy I've been seeing for two months is moving

You’d rather have him string you along?

He told you quite early on that he is moving away. Yet you continued to see him and invest emotionally in him. Why ?

He has told you that he dsnt feel that intensely and that your way more invested. Nothing you can do really. You need to take a step back, get a grip on urslf and the see reality. This is over.

Unless he steps up and makes plan or discusses future, this seems over sweety.

He was happy to enjoy your company and be in the moment until the move came up and reality sunk in. He can say whatever he wants, because it means nothing at all until he follows through in action. (Plus, “hinting” that you’d like his hometown is fun flirting, seriously talking about that would be really rushing things after barely knowing you for a month, no??) Instead, his actions since then are that he made excuses to not see you much before he leaves, pulled back on communication, and told you his honeymoon period ended already and you’re not on the same page. So, in this way, he’s told you exactly what he wants. This has nothing to do with you being overbearing, but it means his talk about a long-distance relationship was just that: talk, at a fantasy time that you two didn’t know each other well yet. If a guy’s words and actions aren’t aligned, unfortunately you need to “listen” to whichever is the more disappointing one.

You also don’t mention how long he’s been divorced or if he’s in part moving for a new start after the divorce? Ten years is a long time, and men tend to need a long time to get over divorces. So if it has been only, say, a year or less since the divorce, he may still not be emotionally available enough to new women to seriously date, which is also why he jumped in excited and fast (in spite of knowing about the distance to come) and then faded.

Another thing to consider on your side is that after someone has a bad experience with an ex, sometimes it feels really good to throw yourself into a fantasy. It feels safer, in a way, as you try to recover from that past hurt. You get a big distraction (and maybe an ego boost) in a new dating situation, which of course feels great, and in this particular situation you could rush along the emotional intimacy because he’s moving soon, you need to squeeze it all in right away! And you knew immediately that if things didn’t work out, he was moving anyway… it’s not your fault, it is just the circumstance, long-distance after only a couple months is really hard, so you can hang on to a hopeful what-if after you’re done with school… this all likely feels less painful in the moment than dealing with what your ex did to you, while subconsciously allowing you an out (distance) to avoid things getting as serious and painful as with your ex. The problem is, similar to a rebound, the ending can pile more unprocessed sad feelings on to what was already there, so now you have two painful endings to deal with at once.

I don’t think this situation is going to be more than it has been up to this point. I’m sorry to say that because I know it hurts. But try to appreciate the experience for what it was: you had a lot of fun with a guy you knew for 6 weeks who reminded you that there’s more out there than your crappy ex, your ex who didn’t deserve you! Wish him well in his move, focus on your studies for a while and on healing from these guys. Even if things don’t work out with him and he doesn’t follow through with making things long-distance, this guy was an improvement over your lousy cheating ex, so that means you’re on the right track. Remember that you always deserve to be treated well!

This all is very sad and very new. Sadly, what would have been best would for you to pull way way back when you knew he was leaving and let him lead. But with guarding your heart as this had high pain potential. Men say and mean a lot in the moment. It is your job to observe if they follow through. He needs to miss you in his new place and even that is not a guarantee.

You should stop contacting him at all, and if he wants to do long distance, I suggest no visits to or from from either of you without the intention of trying to make this work.

Also, he told you he feels you feel more strongly and it is clear you do. So your options are: ruin it with constant talking and needs for reassurance, end it so he feels you missing, pull way way way back and let him take all the next steps. But even with all that, many long distance does not work and at 2 months, you like each other, but may not be that bonded.