Guy keeps going hot and cold long distance… help

Why are you worried about a guy you have never met? There could be plenty of reasons- he has a wife, works 3 jobs, has a girlfriend, lives in a shack, etc. We could take guesses all day. Only he knows. Do you think you can base a relationship off of pen pal/sexting?

Move on to a guy who is closer to you that you can actually meet in person. Don’t invest until the relationship has progressed and they show they are just as invested in you.

yes so true i just posted this on another thread.

one guy i exchanged nos with ages back. after few weeks of hey and hello. he disappeared. he then messaged after months to tell me that he cldnt get me out of his mind but he couldn’t reconnect bec of some health crisis. i said cool. he again disappeared. he then reappeared and said he had faced lots of losses in his business and hence he lost touch. i said ok. he again disappeared and back to say his parents are not well. if i keep taking all these men seriously, i will go crazy in the head.

about the sex bit. a guy i interacted with 3 weeks back. online for a bit. after exchanging nos he bought the topic of sex in almost all conversations. and he had told me very categorically that he wasn’t luking for just sex. i pointed it out and he got defensive. he stayed in another city. he suggested coming down to my city for 2/3 days to catch up with me. again i found this weird. its not like i have had lengthy chats or phone calls with him. so him wanting to spend 3 days wid me was dicey. so i just blocked him.

what am saying is you meet all types of people online. don’t get carried away and don’t get pushed into doing things that u don’t feel comfy with. and till you meet the person its all air. u have given him enough time. now stope wasting your time unless he comes down and meets you. and when he does comedown (if at all) pls dont get pushed into sleeping with him unless your very sure.

I’m with Gaia. In my opinion, this is a waste of your time. If this guy wanted to meet up with you, he would have done it already. 4 hours isn’t that far. No man is too “busy” for a woman he is truly interested in.

You said you “seem to get along well” but you don’t know the guy! You haven’t met! This is all just a fantasy. You don’t know each other, you haven’t met, and from the sound of it he’s not that interested in meeting or he would have come to see you by now. It sounds like he’s just flirting and playing games. There are lots of people out there who like to have fantasy relationships based on texting and never actually meet.