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Kelly
How about this one…first date I was supposed to meet a guy but he had to cancel because he had to have his brother’s birthday dinner. Which is fine. You could have told me before and then we could have rescheduled prior but I completely understood. So I rescheduled. We had our first date and we seemed to hit it off. He suggested if we ever want to hang out to let him know. I suggested we do something Friday. The day comes and he says that his brothers are giving him a migraine and will see later how he is feeling. Time rolls around to actually meet him and he says at this point he would like reschedule. I suggest Sunday. He agrees. Sunday comes around and I text to see if we were still on. He said he was doing something with his brothers and would let me know. So I wait until 4 and hear nothing until 7 pm. By that time I didn’t want to go anywhere. Finally hear back from him. So I tell him that I can not go anywhere because I’ve made other plans and that we can reschedule. Despite the other times I thought I would give him one more chance because maybe he is busy with family. So I suggest we make plans for Friday. He agrees. Friday arrives (which is today) and hear nothing from him. We were to do something at 6 and it was 4 with no word. So I text him to see what’s going on. He replies that he is busy working on everything. At that point I don’t even bother reminding him of our date. So am I in the wrong here by not wanting to give him any more chances?
ProbablyJustCrazy
I’d step back from that. He is not making any attempts to see you and has made no initiatives. Doesn’t sound good :/
xyz
Forget about this flaker. He’s cancelled way too many times and clearly he isn’t interested. Don’t take it personally, just see it as a blessing that you won’t ever have to move further with this flaker. It’s a good way to weed out the losers and he proabbly would’ve been a problem in the long run. Do you really want to be waiting on a guy who’s not dependable? ? Move and find a guy who appreciates your time and effort. Onto the next, If I were you I would’ve axed him by the second time he’s cancelled. Don’t give it anymore thought
Shannon
Absolutely not. A guy gets one chance with me. If he blows me off, he doesn’t get another chance. In your situation, come on, he knew it was his brother’s birthday. Why make a date for that night? You teach people how to treat you. Unfortunately, by being too nice and understanding you gave this guy the impression that he doesn’t need to make you a priority and that you’ll put up with his crap. Move on.
Jessica
Ugh. Absolutely drop him – completely disrespectful. Just tell him that flakiness in men is a turnoff to you and no thank you for any more dates. I told that to a guy after he rescheduled a date and then one afternoon cancelled a date scheduled later that night – we hadn’t met yet. He acted shocked and couldn’t believe I wouldn’t give him another chance.
Hannah
You suggested all the dates. He didn’t suggest a single one. I think that tells you all you need to know. No more chances!
Stefanie
Below standard. NEXT!
Amy S
What a flake. Flush and move on to a non flake. Jerk. x
Stefanie
And do not ask men out. That’s their job, asking you out.
Girl_Friday37
<<He suggested if we ever want to hang out to let him know.>>
That was your big red flag. I would be instantly put off if a guy I liked said this to me after our first date. It’s basically saying, “I’m not going to bother pursuing you.”
Do you really want to give this guy another chance? He’s a total flake and I think he might have said the above comment to you believing that you wouldn’t get in touch, so that’s why he’s making excuses instead of just being a decent person and telling you he doesn’t see this going anywhere.
Rose
Don’t tell him anything, just move on. I bet he won’t bother finding out why you stopped texting him as he doesn’t seem too interested.
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