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Pixie
So i met this guy through dating app and we had a great time on our first date. We are not in the same geography, we keep in touch after first date and I saw his efforts on keeping in contact and finding me repeatedly, to an extent that I decided to visit him after a month communicating. He hosted me and we did have amazing weekend! Gooddbye was tough, I asked him again if we will meet, he replied hopefully…the thing is since I got home it was me who initiated conversation, he does reply promptly, but right now I stopped initiating and we have not talked for a week (I would like to see if he will find me). Not sure about the future though, men are complicated 😐
Miss_A
He didn’t feel a strong enough connection with you to pursue a long-distance relationship. He didn’t have the courage or respect to tell you directly. But his silence is your answer, loud and clear. I’m sorry.
Liz Lemon
I agree with Miss_A.
Long distance relationships are really hard, especially if you’re starting as an LDR from the very beginning. This guy just isn’t feeling it. I would let it go and stop trying to contact him.
Be grateful he is distancing himself, it will free you up emotionally to find someone local. It’s too bad he didn’t have the guts to actually tell you. But it’s better than he do this than fake it and pretend he has feelings for you, and keep you emotionally entangled where you can’t move on.
Andrea
Did you sleep with him? Why didn’t he visit you first? Either he wanted sex, or he didn’t feel enough of a connection to pursue anything. This is a blessing in disguise, because he’s freeing you for the One. You will look back and see how you dodged a bullet.
Puxie
Thanks for the thoughts
To answer you all:
1. We slept on first date
2. He told me of why he broke off with his ex because he can never do ldr
3. He told me before I came visit he’s fine if I don’t because with his work situation it will further complicates things
4. We both knew we liked each other
5. LDR is hard, yes but I know some guys who contacted me after.a bit of idle, from as far as Mexico/LA or Munich, so it’s not not impossible. These happened when I focus my energy to something else
5. I’m ok, but I think he really fit for what I’m looking for. Maybe timing isn’t rightKhadija
I hate to say this but, your story is so common around here.
Two people meet online, living hours away or different countries. Eventually they meet and then after that weekend radio silence.
Please save yourself the heartache and don’t entertain men who aren’t local. Dating long distance from the start is way too hard.
He may reach out later but, I highly doubt it will be the same.
Andrea
So you knew from the beginning, before you travelled to and slept with him, that this wasn’t going to work and he wasn’t really interested.
Thea
Not putting hope, but the fact I went there actually is putting the ball back to his court!
I knew and proven guy do comes back! But it’s definitely not gonna be the same later!
Pixie
So, after a week of not communicating I got a Valentine’s Day wish from him.. i was thinking he probably have a deep thinking about the entire situation hence why he is idle. Any thoughts here?
Anon
Here’s the thing- you went to him, did he buy your ticket? He’s making little to no effort in contacting you and no effort in seeing you. He’s not really interested in you unfortunately and is not having deep thoughts. A text on Valentine’s Day is very low interest- he could have sent that to multiple women.
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