Guys only ever want to hook up with me?

I’ve always been in the same situation! It has something to do with the way you portray yourself. For me, it was always because I was the “party girl” all I really did was have a good time. Even when I became more of a homebody, people still went off their first impression, or photos of me, etc. You don’t have to be the wildest girl ever to have people look at you in that “not take you serious” light either, so it can be a little confusing for sure! I don’t know how you are, but it’s definitely something to do with how you portray yourself. Try to just seem a little more into what you want (a relationship) & once you really focus on that, & focus on really loving yourself, you will gradually start to act a little bit different & give off a different vibe, & the right guys will pick up on it! That’s how I turned it around. :) good luck!

I experience the same behavior, and like you, no way I’m sleeping around with anyone. Are you above average looking (hot)? Are you extremely smart? Maybe these guys are insecure and feel like they aren’t good enough for anything long term, so they cop out in order to not be disappointed. Please tell me you don’t chase these guys! If men are intimidated, they won’t do anything that would expise them as vulnerable. So if they sleep with you and that’s all, they won’t feel like they’ve failed if they went for anything more with an “unattainable” girl.
If its not that, do you have a reputation of sleeping around or being loose in the past? Where are you meeting people? That could make a difference too. If everyone in your social circle knows each other, maybe people are gossiping??

Hi Lil m,

I understand your problem, I was like that a long time ago. And I agree with Ashlee. It’s about how you portray yourself.
You said it yourself “I will treat a guy who is my friend, and a guy I’m interested in, in a similar way” . You maintain the friend zone. So yeah guys can be like ” Oh! A hot friend. Could we sleep together to make it hotter?”
You already have friends. They don’t care adding to the list. Don’t be afraid to show how special it makes you feel when they look at you. Let them guide. They love chasing us and we love being shy around them.
I was the same when I was younger, and I realised with time that I was going straight in the friend zone because I was scared to actually let someone in.

Focus on yourself, make yourself happy, it’ll turn around.

Good luck