has condoms in his wallet??

Ask first really, it can be the second option like Cel said.
I made the mistake of freaking out when I saw two condoms on my bfs wallet and told him he was cheating on me. He was like wtf?? Where does this come from?
It turns out he had one since long time and the other is because sometimes we use it when I have my period for example. We were in a distabce relationship and he took one with him just in case we would need it.

But seriously, if he is a good bf and doesnt show you any signs that he is cheating…Ask him.

Me, that’s over exaggerating.every situation is different. I have had condoms in my POCKET and didn’t imply I was cheating on my love.
At least have a conversation first. If it doesn’t convince you then walk away, but if your relationship is beautiful you shouldnt just accuse him like that.

The problem I have is we split up at the beginning of the year due to something else. not to do with cheating.
we lived together and when I lived with him he had condoms in a draw by his bed along with hand cuffs and other things…but I knew that they were from before I was around and just sat there not being used.
but then I left him…and we ended up getting back together and it has been hard for me to trust him again
so we have been up and down the last couple of months and he got very upset that I wasn’t trusting him.
whilst I wasn’t with him he craved female company and added numerous girls on facebook and instagram.
he claims he didn’t sleep with anyone whilst I was gone…but that’s not my place to question as I wasn’t around. but over the last few weeks his attitude towards me has changed a bit.
and I know I have seen the condoms in his draw at home….so I was very shocked when I saw them in his wallet this morning.
and lets be honest…if we are not using them….why is he carrying them?
he never did before.
but then he’s telling me that im all he wants and his one and only and no woman holds a candle to me.
he’s been working late at work.,…but he’s a vehicle damage assessor which means he travels all over and he has been known in the past when he was younger to sleep with customers.
but for example this evening we didn’t plan to see each other, and he told me yesterday that he has an estimate to do on the way home tonight, so I asked if I asked what time the estimate was…he then went on to say that he had 2 to do tonight and one in the morning so it wouldn’t be a good idea for us to see each other tonight.
he does ring me every night before he goes to bed.
but asked him last week if he’s happy and told him that I felt he was slipping away and he said “of course he isn’t and asked why I would think that” I then told him why and he said “you are reading too much into it…ive just been really busy with work”
I just don’t know what to do….

When did you see them in the draw at home? Can you know if he has put them during your break up or after ?

Hi Laura,

Check the expiry date, if it’s in the far future then those condoms are new meaning he’s planning to use them on someone else. but they’re close to be expired then maybe they’ve been in there for a while. Condoms are good around 5 years unopened.

Good luck.

You can ask him directly, but he’s gonna lie. Rarely will a guy say “as a matter of fact, yes, I AM sleeping with other women”

I’m usually very mellow when it comes to paranoia posts, because i think a lot of girls fly off the handle with little evidence. This is another case for me. Carrying 4 condoms is not normal when you’re in a relationship. Maybe he isnt using them, but its on his mind somehow. It looks like he likes to have the option. I’m also saying that because you made that hand cuffs comment. To me that says he likes kinky sex and if the two of you don’t match that way, he might crave it. Specific fetisjes can have a strong impact on someone. So i would discuss the condoms, but also reflect on that. if you don’t match sexually, it might be an occuring thing. The sexting also suggests that. I personally would take the open approach and don’t accuse of cheating, but talk about the sexual desires of the two of you. If he loves you, he will tell you.

I wouldn’t assume right off the bat that he’s cheating although it does seem a little suspicious and I would probably be questioning it too but if you’ve been with him for a year and a half by that point you should feel comfortable enough to confront him about it. Don’t accuse him of anything yet because you don’t know.

I have been with my boyfriend for a year, a few weeks ago i descided to check his wallet and i found two condoms, then when i checked a week later it was two new condoms. we don’t use condoms he comes to my house every saturday to sunday we enjoys each other company ,cook together ,buys me things. I asked him is he seeing anyone else he said no,but he does not know i know about the condoms .why would he cheat on me ?

Just solely based on the history you two have…a discussion is warranted.

You will build something that may not be up in your mind…just bring it up. If y’all end up married each one of you will have to be able to confront these deep talks…

I have a guy friend with benefits. He is over protective. Anyhow he have sex mostly all the time. He apparently has feelings for me as I do for him. But a while time ago I do recall searching his wallet and asked him why was a condom in there. He said he forgot to take it out over a year ago. That day he threw it out. Couple days ago he had another condom apparently he just rubs it on his cock for the lube. He promised he won’t stick condoms in wallet again. He lied, I found another condom in his wallet just last night. I have tons of reasons to think guys do have sexual favors with other girls. Guys just want to play smart and make us think we are over reacting.

Bianca, if you’re feeling the need to get spyware, you already KNOW what’s going on. Let go of the excuses and the justifications.

He is cheating.

You know he’s cheating.

You HAVE proof – the condoms. You just don’t want to accept it.

Either allow yourself to believe the truth, and leave, or keep finding reasons to deny it and your heart will only be that much more broken when this all goes down.