Has he lost interest all of a sudden

Hi Kayla you say you were texting 24/7 in the past 2 months? That seems a bit extreme when getting to know each other, takes the fun out of actually spending time together if you are texting all day about nonsense. I think he is bored with how the relationship is progressing and is taking a few steps back. In the beginning of a relationship it is very easy to get over excited to do everything in a rush…for both parties. This is why a steady pace eliminates the relationship going too quickly and getting stale/bored just as quickly. Hold back on the communication with him and make yourself busy. Stop waiting for the text and when he does do not appear so eager to respond. You’re both very young and should be enjoying your time off from the relationships you two just left 8 months ago.

Like they saying goes “Only fools rush in.” Those that start in a rush and consume too much energy and each others time usually fizzle quickly.

He is definitely taking this time to think if he wants to stay or go. It ultimately comes down to how much he misses you when you aren’t around. He’s missing you a little based on what you wrote as he checked back in after his first pull back. However, based on the second pull back he may have come to the realization that he needs more time to be single; play the field (date around) and isn’t truly ready for another relationship yet.

You need to learn how to pace it better. Do you want to date your phone or a man? If you want to date your phone then keep texting the way you do and give everything away in a short amount of time. However, if you want to date a man, then you need to leave a bulk of the conversations and learning about each other when you’re together. There’s a dating concept called “mystery and intrigue.” It’s giving little bits of information about each other on each date and allowing you to learn about each other, over time, when your together.

Anyone can be on ‘good behavior’ for a short bit (month or two) but its the time/months after that will slowly reveal to you who they truly are, or where their heads at. This is why you need to be more discerning and cautious (not rush in) so quickly and only slowly lower your guard after many months have gone by, at least six, and they keep proving to you what a great partner they would make.

You also need to understand the differences between love and infatuation. Infatuation can FEEL a lot like love but it is not, its a temporary hormonal reaction (aka “chemical fog”) that doesn’t last very long and often dissipates within a short time. You need to be very aware that it could have been a case of infatuation for him, not love. Need more than a couple months to know which one it is. Until you’ve met the six month mark; then surpassed the year mark and are still going strong; only then can you really know if its love and you’ve got a long-term keeper or not.