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SillyB
I’ve been sort of dating this guy for a about a month and a half. Text nearly everyday about anything and everything and have gone on 3 dates. On the third date we slept together and the day after we slept together he had to leave to town for a work trip for a week and I haven’t heard from him since. It’s been a week since we left and I’m figured I’d let him focus on work and he’d reach out when he got back but hasn’t. Is he over me?
Marie
Sounds like he is over you. It’s been more than a week but if he was interested he would have reached out even with a phone call or a text.
You barely know him, one month and three dates is not a whole lot of time to get to know someone so, move on and just take it that he has moved on also
Bedazzle
Sounds like you were a casual fling and once he got sex he was done. Three dates in a month in a half is very low interest. Then you slept with him after him putting in very little effort which most likely made your value go down in his eyes. He’ll probably reach out again if he wants a romp in the hay.
A man wants and needs to court a woman and put effort into her to invest (his heart). That is how a man develops feeling for a woman. If a man is not pursuing you, securing dates and moving a dating situations forward, then he is not very interested. A man will basically always accept sex when presented with it.
If you want to date a man that is looking for a relationship, let him court you, ask you out on dates and get to know you. Personally, I don’t have sex with a man unless he and I are only dating each other with the intention of seeing if it will go some where. You can set your own rules, but don’t just jump into be without knowing where you stand. Otherwise you find yourself in this situation. Good luck.
T from NY
I am sorry if this hurts but — who cares if he’s over you? I would be over any dude who slept with me (whenever in the courtship that occurred) and he didn’t contact me for a week.
Next
And yes. If you are looking for a long term, committed relationship — sleeping with a guy who’s only taken you on 4 dates in 6 weeks — is a bad bet for your heart.
You know better now
T from NY
**oops 3 dates!!
Emma
Here is the “signs” I recognize: 6 weeks and only 3 dates, and then he takes off on a business trip tight after sex. How many times do we hear that a man has a business trip right after having sex or after the first 2-3 dates?
He is probably doing the same ’round’ with someone else, whomever he was seeing in between you in those 6 weeks. If he saw you every two weeks, then he could easily be seeing someone else at the same time.
I am sorry for how you feel but in these day and age a woman needs to be very vigilant, you can’t afford to be naive and trusting. Educate yourself on the all the recent “trends” of the modern day dating, especially about its dark side. Your situation sounds very typical.
I also think that he’d be back, for round 2, putting you in rotation with someone else. Is this ok with you?
Do not go out with men who do not make you their priority, do not sleep with them without an agreement of exclusivity. If he runs away because of that, great, you spared yourself another hurtful situation. A man who is interested in you will not run away because of this. He will respect you more and will appreciate you wanting to take your time before letting him inside your body. Do not let strangers into your house, nor into your body. LOL 6 weeks, 3 dates fits a definition of a stranger 100%.
Raven
Sometime ago, I dated a guy who brought up the 3rd date rule… I looked @ him @ laughed & said “Good Luck with that…”
Hindsight… I should have slept with him sooner… The sex was awful!
Live & learn…
Khadija
I would be over him to be honest. Guys know that not contacting a woman after sex is a no no.
Any guy that really likes you would not do that.
Plus three dates in the span of a month and a half is really low interests.
NEXT!
Andrea
Sorry that happened to you. In the future if you’re going to sleep with a man who hasn’t asked you to be exclusive, be prepared for him to possibly take off at any point. He more than likely has several women he is dealing with.
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