Haven't heard from him

I agree with the other poster. If it was very early on in your relationship, I would advise not reaching out, but six months in with an established relationship, you should be able to do that without worrying it will turn him off. And yes, that is very little communication but different people have different communication patterns and it seems that it has always been this way. My last boyfriend and I had LDR and I sometimes didn’t hear from him for days, and many times it did make me anxious. But I knew he wasn’t cheating on me because no one else could possibly want him haha.

Hi all. Yes, I guess you could say it is a LDR. He lives a little over an hour away. I work on the weekends, so we get together during the week 2-3 times a month. The rest of the time, we rely on other forms of communication.

Since you have an established relationship I agree that contacting him once a week is ok – but he should be contacting you more than once a week.

If he continues to keep you too far away by no contact in a week I would have a talk with him about the lack on his side of interest he is giving to the relationship and then go from there.

That’s very disturbing for an established relationship. Btw, 1 hr and half away is not a LDR. I keep seeing this in this forum. My boyfriend is an hour and half away and he does not consider that long distance neither do I. When there’s a will, there’s a way. I find it add that a man could be that busy to even just text, “hi, how are you. I’m well hope you are too”. That took seconds to type. Or send an emoji if it’s way to much work to type in letters. I’m not saying his communication style is bad or good. It’s just doesn’t suit me and therefore, I am not surprise it doesn’t suit you as well. I don’t think it’s a deal breaker but after six months you should feel confident and comfortable to talk about what concerns you. Otherwise, this is what you get and have. If you think that’s okay then accept it but if not, have a discussion. It’s not about being needy. It’s about being considerate of other people’s feeling especially the feelings of those in a relationship.

This frequency of communication will not suit any woman, no wonder you are upset. Do you ever contact him? If not, then maybe he is not pleased with you never expressing any interest in him?

I’d text or call and leave a vm and would not hide the fact that you are wondering where he is, it’s been several days. There is no shame in that, it’s been 6 months, a long time already.

But if he does not have a good reason and does not apologize, then do not contact him again, pull away and prepare to move on. This is not acceptable in a stable relationship, and 1.5 hours is not that LDR either. A few texts per day do not take up much time, we all know that, so busy excuses are just that, excuses.

Usually, however, silence mean several things: he is upset with you for something and does not want to confront you, he is losing interest, he met someone else and wants to “signal” to you instead of having to talk to you like a responsible adult.