Haven't talked to him since we've had sex (think I'm overreacting)

General advice on this forum would be to wait for him to contact you (this is of course if you replied to his message already) and to make plans so you don’t “wait around”, wait don’t contact him, but don’t “wait around” holding your nights and weekends hostage just in case he calls.

don’t contact him .. and he may be not talking to see if you will go into chase mode/needy mode .. keep cool and dont act any different than you did before sex

Kizzy, I think you are in the grey zone. If you were really cool with casual sex you would barely notice he hasn’t yet called and you certainly wouldn’t have posted here. However, I don’t think that you realize this — but guess what, you had sex and now you have EXPECTATIONS, you expected him to contact you by now. You don’t know this man well enough to expect really anything from him. I doubt you even asked him what his relationship goals are and I don’t know if you are seeking one either. But let’s go to how to respond now that you are here.

Think about what you want – casual sex, a relationship – what?

Do not contact him unless you really only want casual sex and don’t care either way if he is responsive to you, if he is genuinely interested in you etc.

If he contacts you then decide to directly state to him what your dating goal is casual/or relationship and then ask him what his is. Realize that dating is about getting to know him not to assume that sex will lead to a relationship.

And yes, don’t assume he used you or is using you, that’s an unfair judement to him cause it’s not like you told him that if you two slept together you would expect him to call you within 48 hrs of the act or you would assume he only used you for sex.

I think the issue here is that your physical connection with him got ahead of your emotinal connection with him and you are expecting boyfriend behaviors from a man you have just known for two weeks. I know you are going to say this isn’t true, but if you review your thoughts you might conclude it is true.

Some people can handle getting physical first before emotionally connecting, they are typically people who really don’t give a darn, right now you don’t seem to be one of those people, you are hoping he likes you and you are dissapointed he hasn’t yet called. You are going to either have to shift your mindset or not get physical too soon with a man when you don’t know how he will react to you after sex.

Good luck :)

You guys are the best! I really can take constructive criticism well. I really needed to hear this advice! I will definitely take note on everyone’s input thanks so much

Hey gals! So I finally did talk to him, and I decided to text him first and we got a lil understanding about why he hadn’t reached out.. He told me he assumed I didn’t have a good time Saturday and didn’t care to see him again because he asked me to call him Sunday when I got home and I never did he had to call me and I responded kind of dry Sunday when he did reach out..

So he’s been communicating well with me so far. And I need to keep this ball in my court. now he’s asking when can he see me again! Should I hang out with him this weekend? Should I leave sex out of it?

Hey!
I feel your pain. I am in a similar position. I work with this man we hung out once just casually, then he texted me about how he liked me since we met and wanted to get together again. I suggested another date and this time we had sex. He was very sweet and said all the right things. The next day I asked him to dinner, we went but he was tired and grumpy. After I left and got home he texted me apologizing. I of course said it was all ok. I see him a work in little bits. So the other day I text him saying he should take a smoke break because I was down in that area. He did that but had someone with him. I texted him saying its too bad he always has someone with him and I haven’t heard from him since other than a wave a work here and there. We do not work in the same department. I saw him this past sunday and now its friday with no contact. Hes been crazy buzy at work but I least would have thought he would have text Hi! Now that you got all your advice maybe you can help me?

Hi! Okay so I’m going to need the much advice as expected. I’ve met this guy two weeks ago. We had a few dates & then on that following week we decided to have sex for the first time. After we had sex he told me he loves me? & was being sincere about it..umm i don’t know if he really means that? But anyways the second time we hanged out & got ourselves a hotel room. Yes, we made sweet love & the sex was great & this was like last night. & ever since he hasn’t texted me at all the next morning. So I’m not quite sure if I should go ahead & text him with a “hi” or “hello”? Like to be completely honest I really don’t want him to screw me over, because I really do like this guy.

Hey ladies – I also had something like this happen to me recently. I was talking to this guy for a few weeks and on our third date or so he and I realized we both really liked each other and would wait on sex. We went on a few more dates and things were moving smoothly until he slept over and we ended up having sex. His communication has been weird since that day… maybe I’m overreacting? I almost feel a strong dislike for him right now… I do have to say I’m starting my period in 3 days so that may be what’s contributing to it. What do you guys think?

Christy, How long has it been? You forgot that detail.

Also, it’s better to start your own post so people don’t have to read the posts from 3 yrs ago.