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Kelly
Who initiates the hangouts (primarily physical encounters + some good conversation)? No expectations, but I do want to keep seeing him and getting the benefits for a little bit haha
Do I keep waiting on him to ask me or keep giving him hints, or can I straight up tell him when I’m horny and really want to see him?
I am recently divorced and have never had a FWB before.
Also do FWB do sexting often and flirting? I haven’t been doing that with him much lately
Raven
How long have you been divorced?
How do you know this guy?Having a FWB is a slippery slope & not everyone can navigate successfully.
Why this guy?AngieBaby
Talk with him openly and honestly and set the ground rules so you aren’t guessing what’s OK and you are both clear on boundaries. That’s your best shot at being one of the 1% of women who can handle FWB. Women aren’t wired to do it – they sleep with a guy enough times and they catch feelings. It’s our biology.
This site is full of posts from women who thought they were good with FWB but then started seeing what they think are mixed signals and started believing there was relationship potential when there was absolutely not. It’s sad to watch.
Remember: men are very capable of enjoying the GF experience without necessarily wanting you to be their GF. They like the NSA sex and playing BF on their own terms. But generally, once you’re put in the “playmate” category, it’s almost impossible to cross over to GF/wife territory.
Ewa
from my experience: women are wired to be with a man they have sex with, it’s our hormones. As long as you know this that the attachment isn’t love but hormones , it might be a bit easier. For me it worked to have minimal contact between meet ups , no texting , not trying to get to know this person. Only texting to see if they want to meet.
Also what helped me before to separate my feelings, I try to find something I don’t like about this person, something that makes him not a relationship material, maybe something in his past or his future plans etc. Another thing that works for me is when they don’t stay overnight.
Since you are both on the same page, assuming you are, it is ok for you to suggest meeting up. -
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