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Harley.
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Hey ladies!
My situation starts when I met this guy last October. He attends the same university as I am, although we never shared any classes. Initially, it was just a crush and later on, he messaged me, thanking me for following him on facebook. We started texting and messaging each other. He was kind and very outgoing and funny. I invited him to a cup of coffee and I even got him some home-made cakes! For me, it was a good time. However, he never texted me again after that. He deleted all of our chat. He would ignore my texts. He would deliberately avoid me if we ever sat in the same cafeteria. I was really mad, and it took me a long time to get over it, because I was deeply infatuated . I have to say, I did realize I came of as the pursuer. I learnt my lesson, accepted the rejection and moved on like big girls do. Back in February though, he sent me a ‘hi’ message. I made sure he sees that I have seen it and I delibrately didnt respond or delete it. I brushed it off as him trying to play tricks. Test whether or not I have no dignity to text him back (playing tricks in other words). He never texted me after that.Today, He sent me a friend request. I dont get it. Why is he doing that? Still playing tricks even after 7 months? What should I do in response?
Lane
I don’t know what his intentions are, but based on his prior and current ACTIONS he’s still not interested in the way one would be if they liked a lady.
I’ve had guys I dated “pop in” months later and I just ignore them. Why do they do it? Have no clue other than their probably bored and fishing through their female phonedex checking to see if one will BITE. Immature behavior that I personally ignore.
S
I ignored his friend request and he deleted it the very next day. Indeed, he is just being immature and annoying, simply playing tricks. Thanks for your advice :)
S
UPDATE! he started talking to me
He suddenly started talking to me out of the blue, he sounded polite and gentleman like and he was asking for my forgivness! He was apologizing for being rude and he does realize how much of an amazing person I am and that I will forgive him! He said he wanted to apologize to me longtime ago but never had the guts to do so until now.
I told him I forgave him only because its worthless and time and effort consuming to dwell on the past. He is trying to be kind and polite. I dont know what his real intentions are, is he still playing tricks? Or is he sincere? I am still dry with him, mostly because I have the right to, and he is really trying to lighten up the mood, be cheerful, but am not really buying itUrgently advise me please!
Harley
Be friendly back… but treat him with caution..TIME AND HIS ACTIONS… will PROVE his intent.. good or bad.
A guy comes back because of :
boredom
ego boost… are you still interested, can he get you to fall for him again
curiousity.. how you are keeping
wants you back… genuinely.
THE last option is the one you want.. but only time will tell this,
Do not fall for sweet talk… dates, him paying, NO sex for 3 mths AT LEAST… will show if he is proving himself to be genuine.
GOOD LUCK !
S
Am trying to do that, be friendly and all smiley, but he still trying and wants me back the funny giggly person I was before the whole situation. I can never fall for him again. To be honest, am mad at him. I hate being ignored. I did tell him before that as friends, I would appreciate a ‘am not interested even as friends’ message. But he didnt do that. I realize now that alot of guys tend to do this, its in their nature, but that isnt much of an excuse.
Kudos to me that I handled it Big girls style!Harley
DO you want him back or not ????
Staying MAD.. will get you nowhere. certainly not if you want him back.
Of course things have changed but you have to communicate in an adult way if you DO want him back.
Are you trying to dictate the situation ??? If so.. this will not work with him.. he will get fed up/turned off.
WHAT DO YOU WANT ???
S
am not trying to get him back. I really and honestly want to interpret his actions! I want to know his intentions! Why after 8 months, does he suddenly pop out of nowhere and ask for forgiveness? I will deal it in adult way. I have never been in this situation before, so this really confuses me!
Harley
He probably feels guilty/ mad at himself for his behaviour. And curious. Just watch his actions and time will tell.
Harley
it appears it’s a common habit for guys to pop up in a woman’s life… even years later !
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