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This guy I have been dating asked me to be his girlfriend after 2 months of dating and it was quite sweet that he went down on one knee and asked me to be his girlfriend and I love spending time with the guy so I said yes. That said, I am in a relationship after a gap of around a year so would like any tips from you that can help me safeguard my heart. Also, in the past I used to stress about things like ‘It’s been 2-3 hours and he has not texted back, should I text again?’. ‘I just met him, should I meet him again tomorrow?’
So yes, are there any rules that I should follow other than living my life, being charming and enjoying his company? He is nice, makes the effort to do fun things, has made me meet his close friends and he’d take my sister and I out for dinner soon, so all in all he’s a nice guy.
Also given my schedule I can meet him 2 times a week max, that is not too little right? Also till the next month or so, should I still let him do the initiating like how he has been? Also I think I need a few more months before having sex (even oral) with him. Yes, I have kissed him and gone a bit further but that’s it.
So any tips would be most welcome and if I tell him that I need sometime (till I am in love and I know I will marry him) to have sex with him then it is fine right? Till now I have only had sex with a guy that was I going to get engaged to a couple of years back.
Thanks a lot! x
Sin
Also we were chatting about something in the morning and I sent him a selfie and he replied to me saying ‘Wow such a stunner you are :)’ and I sent back a message saying ‘Now it is your turn, let me see if you’re kicking ass today’ and there is no reply (It has been 4 hourS). I know he might be busy at work, but I have these sudden moments where I wonder all these things and analyze it. Any advice on how to not worry/ get annoyed over little things like this? Thank you!
Boog
Sounds like he is doing everything right so far! I think your plan to take things slow is a smart one. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with waiting on sex! If you tell him you want to take things slow physically and he doesn’t respond well, then you can reevaluate things. But he sounds like a good guy who genuinely likes you, so I think it is likely that he will be fine with that plan.
I think seeing each other a couple times a week is fine. That’s a good amount of time to yourself to keep your own friends and interests, but also plenty of time for the two of you to get to know each other better and continue building your bond. Just take things one day at a time and remember to enjoy the process.
Also, I wouldn’t stress if he didn’t reply to your text. He probably is just busy at work. But for the record, I never send people selfies if they ask for them. I don’t really like taking selfies to begin with, and if someone asks for one, I feel pressure and it makes me uncomfortable. If he ever does send you one you could encourage him by saying, “I love it when you send me pics, it makes me happy to see your handsome face” or something like that. But I don’t think I’d ask for one. He might be having a bad hair day and not want you to see it. ;)
Sin
Thank you so much for your response Boog! :) Yes, he seems to be really nice because once when I went to his place, I mentioned to him that I would not like to go beyond kissing him for now he said sure, you’re here because I wanted you to try out XYZ dish and to just chat with you. No pressure at all, so I really appreciate that.
Additionally, the plans that he is making with me are all fun plans like he wants to check out a gym and a concert together so the focus is more on getting to know me and planning fun dates and I like that about him.
So yes, I’ll take it slow and focus on spending time and getting to know the guy. I am glad you think meeting him twice a week is good, because typically I am working and then working out and meeting my friends on the other days so I like seeing him once during the week and once over the weekend.Actually the thing is that I am very active on instagram and land up posting a lot of selfies and he finds it damn amusing in a fun way. The last time he was out with me, he land up posing for a lot of them and kept telling me that whenever we are together only I should take our pictures as I am good at them lol. And yes, he sent me a selfie of the both of us that we clicked a few days ago as a response to my message saying, ‘Is that not a great picture? And isn’t the girl next to me beautiful?’ so yes, he seemed to have been busy at work.
And You’re right, I won’t ask for one the next time and if he does then I’d say, I’d rather click some new ones with you when I see you next! :)
Thanks again for your response! :)
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