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Mae
I’m an assistant manager at a popular clothing store in my city. About a month ago before we got shut down due to COVID-19 a guy walks in asking for help to find a nice shirt for his sisters graduation.
So i helped him… once i helped him find a shirt he saw the selection of clothes we had and ended up staying in the store for an hour shopping and picking through clothes. I helped him find spring clothes and shoes etc. while helping him he was a little flirtatious with me and i ended up ringing his purchase up and we exchanged numbers.
A week after exchanging numbers he finally texts me and acknowledges who he was and from that day he’s texted me almost everyday. We met up about 3 weeks Ago at a park we sat in my car and talked for 3 hours and he told me he had to go around 1am. Before he got out of my car he asked me how did i feel about him so far then he asked would i be willing to hang out again. Ever since the car meet up he’s been begging for me to come spend time with him. He even asked did i want him to pick me up from my place.
But I’ve been distant. I wasn’t really feeling a connection after we met up at at the park. He was really talkative but he mainly talked about his kids in the car so i didn’t really find him interesting. But he’s been consistent on texting me daily and asking me out. even though i rarely text back and i haven’t been giving him the time of day
Today he asked me “well when are you going to stop being scared and let me get to know you, you’re treating me like end bread” I texted back “what do you mean by I’m treating you like end bread?” And he said “no one likes the last slice of bread .. i call that end bread or the first piece of bread… i want to be treated like a croissant or a buttery biscuit”
And i responded “lol that’s funny and cute” Him: “ Im cooking tomorrow and i rarely cook but can you come over ? I’ll come and pick you up if you don’t want to drive.
Me: yeah i can come I’ll drive myself thanks. And he responded “okay i normally eat around 7-8 so anything around that time will be perfect
TL:DR; is he inviting me over for sex ? I don’t mind coming over for a warm meal and to watch a movie but i rarely go over makes houses they normally come to mine if we even get that far
B
Ask him what his expectation of this date is? If you’re not looking for that, say it clearly that you’re not looking for that.
Raven
You do not know this guy…
Why can’t he take you on a proper date?Mr. End Bread is acting like a Heel…
Mae
A lot of restaurants and fun places are close
Due to Covid-19 ….he said he would take me out to wherever when this was overPaige
And tell him that some people LOVE the end pieces of the loaf! My husband saves them for me because they’re my favorite part of the loaf.
(Oh, and I don’t know if he’s asking you for sex. It sounds like he could be asking you to have dinner with him. If he wants sex, just tell him that it’s too early to be thinking about becoming THAT close. :) )
K
Stop using this man for lazy entertainment, an ego boost, a free meal and movie. You know you’re not interested. It’s very unkind to lead him on like this.
Mae
I’m not using him it’s just when we met up the first time he talked about his children he really didn’t tell me much about himself. But I’m willing to give him another shot
Lane
If you don’t get a weirdo vibe from him then I would say its there’s no harm in meeting him again to see if the topics get better in a different atmosphere. Sometimes people don’t realize they are talking too much about a subject and need a little kick, such as “you sure do talk about your kids an awful lot” as it gives them an opportunity to not only reflect on what they speaking about but see if they are are able to change the subject and start talking about different or interesting topics from thereon.
I did this with my current BF when we were initially getting to know each other. We were just casually talking like two strangers do when they first meet, and he was going on and on about his exes. It got to the point where I told him “you sure do talk about your exes an awful lot, are you still in love or emotionally tied to them?” He stopped, thought about it for about 15 seconds and responded with “I was just trying to give you some background on myself.” I responded that’s fine but I really have no desire to hear about your love life.” After that he stopped talking about it and now three years later he rarely ever brings it up, nor do I about mine, because its just not a topic I care to talk about.
Liz Lemon
Don’t go to a guy’s house without making it clear to him what you do and do not intend to do. I didn’t go to my current boyfriend’s house until we had been dating awhile and I was ready to sleep with him, and it was clear to both of us what was going to happen. We both went into the evening knowing we would end up in bed.
Given the current restrictions (restaurants being closed, etc) I think it’s fine to go to the guy’s house as long as you feel comfortable with him. Just make it clear what your boundaries are. Especially since you barely know this guy, you’ve only been out with him once. I also think it’s fine to give him a 2nd chance if you didn’t feel a strong attraction to him on the 1st date, I don’t think it’s leading him on.
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