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Sarah
Hi there,
I (30 F) have dated someone (38M) for about 3 months before he broke it off with me.
Initially we seemed like a perfect match, from the first time seeing each other we knew there would be a future for us.
Unfortunately it didn’t seem to be that easy. I’m a person that likes a consistent amount of contact and emotional closeness and he was more the type that could show extreme closeness one weekend, then not contact me for 2 days. This caused problems and he broke it off with me.I decided to go no contact and after 6 weeks I decided I wanted to reach out to him again. Then I found out he didn’t only delete but also blocked me on Facebook and Instagram. Just before that he viewed my story which was a picture of a heart shaped burger I had for Valentines day. I don’t know if that is relevant but I thought it was strange because he has viewed my stories before.
I am having a really hard time understanding why he would block me and am honestly crushed over it.
Is there any hope left?
cupcake
I don’t know why he blocked you, but i don’t understand why you want to reach out again.
It seems like the two of you were not compatible and he for one didn’t see a future with you. He dumped you and, apart from watching your insta stories, doesn’t seem interested in rekindling.
I suggest it’s time to move on.
Zoe
He should be begging you to get back after he broke up with you
Only then you should consider it if he is willing to make it up to you
He blocked you instead
Move onElvira
Hi Sarah sorry you have to deal with this guy’s nonsense. It seems to me like you wanted a serious relationship with constant contact whereas he was looking for something less serious. At the 3 month mark it is a sticky situation where one person is seeking commitment and the other may be thinking twice of whether they want to pursue. It is extremely immature for him to block you and I would be happy that you found out how immature he is this early on. I would block/delete him as well. You don’t need to question his actions if you don’t know about them. I would say lose hope on this one….he doesn’t come off as someone who is interested in rekindling this romance.
Padmini
Hi, Sarah,
I actually feel there could be some hope for you here. It could be telling that he blocked you right after viewing your Story of *Heart-Shaped* food. It might be the case that he thought that you were eating that heart-shaped-food with a Date or new Boyfriend, and so he felt vulnerable since he was still not over you.
From the details you provided about your Relationship with him, it appears as if he does have strong emotionality, but timeliness has not always been in favor of your Relationship. He could have difficulty expressing and dealing with his feelings.
SO: If I were you, I would assess the Relationship you had with him and possibly also brainstorm it with a good friend. I do feel it could be worth it, if you finally find it so, to reach out to him via Telephone (whether text or a call).
It seems like he would just have blocked you on Social-Media, but not Telephone.
Good luck!
Tallspicy
Men are better at compartmentalizing. Padmini is giving you terrible advise. Never contact him again. He knows where to find you if he wanted to.
I have been blocked months after a relationship before…months later in fact. I thought I did something wrong, but the reality is what he does is about him. Men often have an ability to just cut things out so it is not irksome. I felt crushed as well. But some people just unfollow and block.
Most likely, it was just over and time to disconnect. So he did.
Never again put heart shaped things on your Instagram like that. It is either trying too hard or manipulative. Both turn men off. For all you know he just started watching other stories and yours came up in line.
Padmini
Well, honestly, the block is a more aggressive move than to unfriend and unfollow.
If you really meant nothing to the guy and he thus wished to move on, he would have just unfriended you or unfollowed you, instead of blocking you.
Of course I could be wrong. You know the situation best.
Tallspicy
It is a huge leap to say that a block means unresolved positive feelings. And to assume it means more than an unfollow is also a leap. Some people just block.
It suggests the opposite of any sort of want for resolution. He said he wants to move on, he broke up with her, has not contacted her and has now blocked her. Nothing in that says, I actually secretly like you, hope to hear from you and that we should get back together. Strong feelings unless positive mean nothing.
Newbie
Is he a vegetarian? That could be your answer
Look you sound like you didnt accept his decision to break up while at it was based on you two being incompatible. You like a guy in touch every day and he felt smothered by that request. Well, a good guy that really matches with you, you dont have to tell to stay on touch. He will do that without ypu pushing him. Its that simple.
So once he broke it off it would have been smarter of you to move on instead of hoping for a rerun after the non contact period. There is one thing the internet doesnt tell you about no contact. It doesnt work on relationships that were not fully on. Because 2/3 months doesnt count as a relationship but as dating where one party decided it wasnt for long term. You tried no contact, made a heart pic and probably a text meant to get report like: i was eating a heart shaped burger which reminded me of you eating an avocado. How are you? Well i made that up
So cupcake asked you the only logical question: why you want to reach out to a guy that dumped you for being you?Anon Person
No one here can possibly know why this guy blocked you.
Maybe he was dating someone else on Valentine’s Day and she insisted he block any women he had on socials. Maybe he was feeling resentful because you never reached out to him before V Day. Who knows?
It is actually best for you to move on regardless of why he blocked you because as others have said the relationship didn’t work out. He ended it. The person who ends a relationship is less likely to want to rekindle.
You can do much better. You can do much better than this guy.
Emily
He blocked you because he wants no further contact. Women often tell themselves, “If I knew why he did this, I would get over it.” That’s a myth. You will probably never know and it wouldn’t help you move on if you did. You move on yourself, not because of something the other person says or does. Forget this guy.
tammy
i thnk one of the posters is giving terrible advice. honey he broke off with you. he then blocked you after few months. end of story. why wld you think and analyse? about what? its not he kept things open or took time off to think things through. nothing of that sort. its end of this story. and the sooner u accept the sooner you will move on. there is no hope. he broke off and thn also blocked you so that you cannot reach out. it will be sheer stupidity on your part to reach out and call him. that reeeks of desperation. dont pls do that. you will surely regret it.
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