He called me by name

I find this “phenomenon” (or “outrage” thereof) VERY interesting – it’s the second time I’ve seen a post of this sort on here the last couple of days.

With me it’s the opposite – when they start using my name, they suddenly have my attention not because I’m worried/uncomfortable with it, the exact opposite in stead. I marvel at the sound of my name coming from a guy I adore. (I kinda have a weird/unusual name, fyi) Obviously pet names are nice/cute, but I don’t like the overuse of it. My (ex) LT bf used my name less and less over the years, and I started pining to hear it more often. And the way the one before him said(says!) my name (he never used a pet name), and the current, err, “interest” (his accent helps!), oh man … ;) I like that my guy friends use nicknames/pet names for me though, but they do come up with kinda awesome (unusual) ones and not just generic stuff.

Anyway, I’d love to hear the (different?) opinions on this.

Lol…yes its my name of course..I really have a very unique name. He called me by my name when we started dating but we used pet name which is also different from ordinary pet names because it’s different language. But can’t help to ask myself why he suddenly called me by my name..I was upset? I want to ask why but maybe he will consider this as childish.

me and my boyfriend have always had nicknames for each other from day one
he is ginger so i call him ginge and he has a nickname for me using my surname
or we use babe or pet names

the only time i have ever used his name is when i have had to raise my voice to calm him down or in an argument

last year we went through a very difficult time and he was a complete jerk towards me
i could feel he was pulling away from me in october time and then in december we were out shopping and he called me cause i was about to walk into someone…but he called me by my first name
i remember standing there and thinking hang on you have never ever called me that
i questioned him about it and he just shrugged

in december then he was an idiot and caused us to break up…just before we did he knew he was losing me and i noticed he changed the screen saver on his phone from a pic of me…and also stopped calling me the pet names and i was hearing my name more often

i asked him about it when we got back together and he said that he noticed i was calling him by his first name too and he felt i was trying to pull away

my mum reckoned it was a way of shutting down to me, sort of trying to turn the feelings off cause he knew things were going wrong

i dont want to alarm you or make you think anything is wrong
it could just be he was tired or something, cause men tend to just say things
but at the same time in my experience for me it meant something

Hi Anna,

I have to be honest finding you a little bit blunt and dismissive
this website is designed to help people and i get the feeling you are quite judgmental instead of helpful

i didn’t write my story for you to be dismissive – i was just writing my experience to help

It’s true im over reacting over this situation. That I call him by his name too and I sound upset. I think he noticed my behavior and now he’s not texting for two days now. Do I need to say sorry?

My bestfriend call me hun or mami. When his mad he call me with my first name . I’m doing the same thing when I’m mad at him I call him with his last name. That how we can tell that we have an issue to solve .