He cut the date short

Rude of him to leave me hanging on a Saturday night, without explaining beforehand, but I do really want to understand why he thought this was ok, and I don’t want him to think he can do this anytime he pleases. I’m thinking of texting him ‘I love Saturday nights because they are my free nights where I can have fun and spend time with ppl I care about. I’d planned to spend this Saturday with you and was looking forward to it but by cancelling last minute, I had little opportunity to plan something else. Can you explain this please?’

I do agree that he should have at least mentioned it beforehand but, that message is a bit much.

I’d let him contact you at another time. Then I’d gently bring that up. Simply say:
Hey, I had a great time the other day. Since I really like to plan out my weekends; in the future if you need to cut our date short could you let me know before hand?

Thank you, I always appreciate your advice. I had planned on sending a much worse text but my dad (who’s very good in this department) said it sounded needy and told me to say that instead. He said it isn’t very gentleman like to leave a lady hanging on a Saturday evening.
So as we usually just text, should I call him tomorrow and have the conversation that way?

So, you two never talk on the phone?

Whenever, I have to talk with someone about subjects like this I do not text.

I use texting for very brief messages that require a short response back.

Ive never had an issue with him before, I see him once or twice a week and we text to arrange plans or to say good night

I’ve still got a lot to learn, I want to understand better. This upset me, I didn’t say anything at the time but he could tell on my face I was upset which is why he said he will cook for me soon. So should I call him even though we never call?

It’s one in the morning, I did go out to see the fireworks but I really need to cool off tonight. will call him tomorrow then although he will tell in my tone that I’m upset

Thank you so much X X X

I agree with Khadija, do not use texting or email or anything in writing for confrontational issue. I’ve done it before and it always backfired at me. I always regretted it later. Talk in person.

However, I think that you should not call him first, after what happened. I’d wait until he contacts you. Then call.

Both texts are way too much in my opinion; angry and needy. But I am the opposite, when I had heavy subjects to talk about my BF and I always said it in email. But we were LDR. If we could not say it in person, we wanted to write it down because it was well thought out that way and then later we could discuss it over the phone. Otherwise try to keep phone convos more positive. I would not call him for this, it is really overdoing it IMHO. Best would be to bring it up in person as suggested above. For now send nothing, do not call, wait for him to contact and bring it up in a non-accusatory way. Perhaps he had his reasons, perhaps he is indeed rude and see how he behaves next. No point in scolding him if he does not care anyhow, he should be the one to bring it up and apologize in the first place.

Hello, my grandmother thinks that because I’m always busy it was his way of sort of punishing me. For example I didn’t go to his goodbye drinks on Friday, which is why he cut the date short on Saturday. Could this be another reason why?

Olivia it sounds like he’s a little new to this relationship. He asked when he could see you, you said Saturday, he asked you to a Good-bye party which is pretty big for him and then he carelessly cut your date short. He was upset you couldn’t go on Friday and a child cutting the date short. Let him be. He wants to wait until you are not angry anymore and when he feels comfortable he will probably contact him. Try to make light of this situation when you bring it up.

He should of said to you can I see you Friday? I have to help friends on Saturday night. There is always Sunday right?