He didn’t confirm date

Because you probably met him online and he has a million other options.

There was no time I told him to let me know what time

When he mentioned a specific place, your mistake was saying let me know. You could have said simply, yes, thank you I would like to meet you there on Friday..

That would be his cue to reply, what time is good for you?

Well its 7:30 so go about your night.

When I dated guys online if they didn’t confirm time,date, and place before the date I considered myself to not have a date.

Press on and just remember the right guy will come along.

Brie-I said let me know not him!

Anne-I said yes, let me know the time what’s the difference if he told me then 7pm? So I turn up and his not there? I don’t think I made a mistake in saying let me know he had the choice to tell me there and then he didn’t.

Rose-What does it matter if I know him or not I am asking a question as to whether I am justified in not contact him myself

Well, OK, but since he didn’t ever discuss a time, then there was no date.

Khadija You are right but this happens to me a few times. But sorry I am not willing to accept that it’s a mistake if you don’t confirm time when he asked about the date because that leave you will two options either turn up at that time and run the possibility that he’s not even there or you text yourself that day to confirm the time. No sorry I don’t want to do either of those things. If he wants to ask me out he can propose the time and he can confirm if he’s into it.

Bedazzle I know what you mean but I honestly don’t think think I could have been anymore enthusiastic than I was.

The exact conversation was him first of all saying let him know when I am free so I said ‘I’m Free Friday’ and he said he was too and proposed a place. I said ‘Cool sounds good! Just let me know what time (kiss emoji).’ OK I could have asked what time or given a time that worked for me but I don’t think from that conversation I was unenthusiastic or appeared disinterested. I said let me know! That means I’m in! All you gotta do is tell me a time, either now, today or tomorrow. Just tell me! Ughhh!!!!

Maybe I need to take more responsibility but I don’t think I gave reason for him to think I wasn’t interested and yeh I’m feeling let down, I’ll be over it tomorrow but I was looking forward to meeting him so it just feels a bit sucky.

It was text

So you didn’t speak to him which you wrote in your first post. The only reason I am pointing this out is because what that communicated to me was that you actually spoke, as in talked as in opened your mouth and had words come out of your mouth. Right here this is unclear communication on your part. I am not getting on your case, I am trying to help you understand the challenges of communication, especially via written word.

How can a man “read” you as being enthusiastic through text? Men are horrible and picking up on subtle cues in person so I can imagine text is even worse because there is NO context at all. Emoji’s don’t count as communication. There are times people send me emojis and I have no idea what they mean by them.

I highly doubt this guy picked up on enthusiasm. Reading what you texted, I would say he WAS asking you on a date. “Let me know” does not mean “I am in.” “Yes,” “what time'” or “I’m in” means “I am in.”

I was born in another country and one thing my family pointed out to me was how insincere Americans were. Here you run into someone and they say, “lets do lunch.” The other responds, “yes, we must.” And that is the end of that. There is no follow up and no lunch. Still happens to this day.

I am going to suggest (and again I am guessing since I really don’t know what is going on for this guy) that he asked you out and you didn’t say yes. He moved on.

I hope this helps. I would recommend to straight and to the point with men. They don’t pick up on subtle and they can’t interpret anything via text. If a guy asks you out and you want to go say, yes, I am in or what time next time. See how it goes.

You don’t have to agree with me. I am just providing you with a different perspective. You pick what is right for you.

I’d say he’s a flake as you originally wrote- do not agree to any further get togethers with him. And when he asks you out again as I guarantee he will- I’d write – not interested anymore- don’t say sorry or apologize or even take care.