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Home › Forums › Break Up Advice › He doesnt want a relationship but wont let me go
Lane.
tina
So a guy I have been talking to for a significant time frame (1 year) has decided he doesn’t want to meet me (fyi im travelling and home in a week). So we have never actually met for a date. I know him however, been to a few parties together/know him to say hi to.
He decides 3 weeks ago that he doesn’t want to meet me, but will not stop contacting me.
I don’t understand this mentality. If you don’t want to be with someone or meet someone, why not leave them alone?
I keep hoping when he reaches out, it’s because he has changed his mind. It never is. It’s usually some random question or him telling me “i find it hard to let you go”
Why does a guy do this? Like for what reason? Because I doubt it’s because he is interested in me.
Raven
Better question, Why are you still engaging with him?
tina
I’ve wanted to leave the door open if he changes his mind. I said that to him, if you change your mind let me know, however I am going to be dating others now so I don’t want to invest more time into you.
I couldn’t have been more direct.
N
He’s trying to prevent you from moving forward. I don’t see a reason you would leave the door open on someone who’s toying with your feelings.
tina
I did wonder if this was why. Perhaps he wants me as an option later down the line. Least if i knew the reasons for his behaviour I can call him out for this. I invested a year to the guy and I liked him. I wont wait for him. I haven’t even met him yet so I wouldnt rule it out if he changed his mind.
Raven
WHAT?!
You’ve put your romantic life on hold for someone you’ve never even met?!
Georgina
You boost his ego.. That is why he keeps contact with you. This type of guys dont change their mind.. You’re the one who has to decide to let him go
Dangerouse
Because the other women who are smarter than you have already given up. You are last lingering lady
Lane
You don’t understand men at all. He’s getting a major ego boost knowing your crushing on him but only has to send a little text to keep stringing you along. Look up “e-tethering” as this is what he’s doing to you. Just know men are ACTION orientated, not words as that’s a woman’s realm and he’s playing you like a fiddle. If there’s no actions on a man’s part he’s just toying with you and messing you about because YOU allow it! If you stop, he’ll stop because he has zero desire to be with you, never did, and never will.
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